Last night I was playing drinking games at a friend's house and one of the girls who I had hung out with a few times started calling me a bi*ch. She was like, "why are you being such a bi*ch tonight? you really need to stop being a bi*ch." I don't really understand what she was trying to do. I tried to keep my cool and let it roll off my back by reframing it to myself that she was attracted to me and that she was just "testing me." But after the 3rd or 4th time I calmly asked her if she wanted to meet the back of my hand. That shut her up for 10 minutes, but then she started up again! Should I have just treated her like a brat and told her to sit in timeout instead of saying something kind of violent? What do you guys do when a girl is trying to embarass you in public? I understand that she "won" because I let her get to me, but how do I NOT let her get to me?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Disrespect me
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
tell her to leave you alone.
verbally threatening to abuse her makes you look like a fycking loser
verbally threatening to abuse her makes you look like a fycking loser
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
tell her; "first few times it was funny, but now your getting anoying, PSSSSSTTTTTT!!!!!!
That should shut her up for another 10 minutes
That should shut her up for another 10 minutes
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
I hate it when moles do this. But I have a lovely comeback which certainly puts them in their place. I'll use your case as an example....
"YOU'RE SUCH A *****! YOU GOTTA STOP BEING A *****!
Me: "I may be a *****. You can call me anything you want. But at the end of the day, you're still f*cking ugly" *pleasant smile*
She may get huffy at that moment, but her confidence is sure to be shot from that & she will go quit. Sure to get a few laughs too.
"YOU'RE SUCH A *****! YOU GOTTA STOP BEING A *****!
Me: "I may be a *****. You can call me anything you want. But at the end of the day, you're still f*cking ugly" *pleasant smile*
She may get huffy at that moment, but her confidence is sure to be shot from that & she will go quit. Sure to get a few laughs too.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
yea show her the back of your hand..and you can be shown the backside of metal bars in a small cage.
come on guys, this stuff is basic. a woman knows the worst thing she can do to you is insult your manhood, and calling you a b*tch in front of people is doing so.
you gotta hit her back in her womanhood.
all you gotta say is something like ....
"you are a great example for other women of what happens when you get f*cked and tossed by too many men. Develop some self respect and maybe you'll stop talking like a street hooker."
or
"Honestly, the only women I've ever known who behave the way you are behaving have been sluts who have no self respect. Move on honey, I don't bang white trash" (assuming she's white)
anyway, any various that basically calls her a slut will send her reeling. She'll probably explode in explatives towards you, to which you keep hammering your point home "listen. get you're sh*t under control. Don't go all ballistic on me just becuase you've banged every tom **** and harry and have no self respect left."
J
you gotta hit her back in her womanhood.
all you gotta say is something like ....
"you are a great example for other women of what happens when you get f*cked and tossed by too many men. Develop some self respect and maybe you'll stop talking like a street hooker."
or
"Honestly, the only women I've ever known who behave the way you are behaving have been sluts who have no self respect. Move on honey, I don't bang white trash" (assuming she's white)
anyway, any various that basically calls her a slut will send her reeling. She'll probably explode in explatives towards you, to which you keep hammering your point home "listen. get you're sh*t under control. Don't go all ballistic on me just becuase you've banged every tom **** and harry and have no self respect left."
J
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
You are a f**king b*tch if you are stupid enough to threaten physical vilonce against a girl atleast have the f**king balls to follow through..... B*TCH
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JaguarMike
Don Juan
As I see it,
she is either Immature and is trying to test you in the stupidest way I can think of... I forgot who said it but throw it back at her verbally, don't threat physical harm because she will expect you to follow through, and will provoke you until you do hit her, so just don't name physical harm at all (this girl seems like trouble... how old are you?)
or she is a piece of garbage and knows you aren't garbage and is going to provoke you for being happy.
I've been in both situations and I dropped both girls, be cautious, these types of girls are the ones who will make your life hell if you don't send them there first.
she is either Immature and is trying to test you in the stupidest way I can think of... I forgot who said it but throw it back at her verbally, don't threat physical harm because she will expect you to follow through, and will provoke you until you do hit her, so just don't name physical harm at all (this girl seems like trouble... how old are you?)
or she is a piece of garbage and knows you aren't garbage and is going to provoke you for being happy.
I've been in both situations and I dropped both girls, be cautious, these types of girls are the ones who will make your life hell if you don't send them there first.
You would have been in a much better situation if you would have said that out loud what you thought deep inside. In every action there is a natural reaction. You could have turned the tables on her and made her seem like the fool.
Her: "why are you being such a bi*ch tonight? you really need to stop being a bi*ch."
You: Why do you like me so much?? instead of being a little girl why don't you really tell me how much you like me???
Her: " wtf! I don't like you, you are a b1tch"
You: Then why don't you leave me alone if you don't like me?? last girl that called me a b1tch I ended up having sex with her!! continue this behaviour and everyone will know what you really want!!!!
Her: Whatever!! (deep down she will be thinking how the fvck you were able to twist this around and use her words against her!!lol)
Words are like weapons. Know how to disarm your enemies and use their own words against them.
holy shi*t Djdamage that's an awesome idea. turning the tables like that and demonstrating my control by accusing her of wanting to sleep with me. i really need to work on just expressing what i feel instead of ignoring or threatening. thanks dude
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
If your going to keep talking like a b*tch i'll slap you like a B*tch
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
lol, classic.