"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've noticed that with a lot of girls, I tease them and bust on them so much that when I give a genuine compliment, they look at me strangely, as if they can't believe I'm being nice to them. Is this common? It seems to me like I'm on the right track, but I'm wondering what your opinions are.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Possibly,but it's all in the nonverbal attitude u adopt when you say the serious stuff versus when you tease.
 
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They're taking your compliment with a lot of weight cause they feel it's genuine if you're telling the truth. Good stuff
 
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francoatgrex said:
Possibly,but it's all in the nonverbal attitude u adopt when you say the serious stuff versus when you tease.
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Could you expand on that? I usually will have a sort of half smile when I give a sincere compliment...lots of eye contact...probably about the same as when I tease her, except without the devilish grin. haha
 
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Eye contact is good, half smile is not good (or a grin, those are good for teasing joking). When you want to give a compliment you need a genuine authentic smile (look up the so-called "Duchenne smile"), or even no smile at all, but a look of enchantement (be careful, no-smile doesn't mean look morose or depressed! that's a no no). It may not be necessarily about just smile or eye contact, you'll need also the proper tone of voice, the proper timing (for example if you've just been teasing, you stop talking for a while and look at her, the momentary silence signals a shift in mood and topic, then you genuinely deliver your killer compliment like in a movie).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Eye contact is good, half smile is not good (or a grin, those are good for teasing joking). When you want to give a compliment you need a genuine authentic smile (look up the so-called "Duchenne smile"), or even no smile at all, but a look of enchantement (be careful, no-smile doesn't mean look morose or depressed! that's a no no). It may not be necessarily about just smile or eye contact, you'll need also the proper tone of voice, the proper timing (for example if you've just been teasing, you stop talking for a while and look at her, the momentary silence signals a shift in mood and topic, then you genuinely deliver your killer compliment like in a movie).
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Yeah man, that's the effect I go for. And by half smile I meant a good genuine one...just not a huge grin. But yeah, good answer :up:
 
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