"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Disbelief at a compliment.

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I've noticed that with a lot of girls, I tease them and bust on them so much that when I give a genuine compliment, they look at me strangely, as if they can't believe I'm being nice to them. Is this common? It seems to me like I'm on the right track, but I'm wondering what your opinions are.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Possibly,but it's all in the nonverbal attitude u adopt when you say the serious stuff versus when you tease.
 

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They're taking your compliment with a lot of weight cause they feel it's genuine if you're telling the truth. Good stuff
 

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francoatgrex said:
Possibly,but it's all in the nonverbal attitude u adopt when you say the serious stuff versus when you tease.
Could you expand on that? I usually will have a sort of half smile when I give a sincere compliment...lots of eye contact...probably about the same as when I tease her, except without the devilish grin. haha
 

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Eye contact is good, half smile is not good (or a grin, those are good for teasing joking). When you want to give a compliment you need a genuine authentic smile (look up the so-called "Duchenne smile"), or even no smile at all, but a look of enchantement (be careful, no-smile doesn't mean look morose or depressed! that's a no no). It may not be necessarily about just smile or eye contact, you'll need also the proper tone of voice, the proper timing (for example if you've just been teasing, you stop talking for a while and look at her, the momentary silence signals a shift in mood and topic, then you genuinely deliver your killer compliment like in a movie).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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francoatgrex said:
Eye contact is good, half smile is not good (or a grin, those are good for teasing joking). When you want to give a compliment you need a genuine authentic smile (look up the so-called "Duchenne smile"), or even no smile at all, but a look of enchantement (be careful, no-smile doesn't mean look morose or depressed! that's a no no). It may not be necessarily about just smile or eye contact, you'll need also the proper tone of voice, the proper timing (for example if you've just been teasing, you stop talking for a while and look at her, the momentary silence signals a shift in mood and topic, then you genuinely deliver your killer compliment like in a movie).
Yeah man, that's the effect I go for. And by half smile I meant a good genuine one...just not a huge grin. But yeah, good answer :up:
 
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