Hey im 26 years old i have been seeing this girl for just over 2 and a half years i started going out with her on the rebound from a previous relationship - the thing was i thought everything was working out good but really i know in the back of my mind she is not the girl for me ( the reason being she is very much a mummys girl telling her every little detail) along with calling me spoilt because i insist on taking a holiday atleast once a year but i work damn hard and want to enjoy myself travelling is a great pleasure to me - Help what will i do i dont want to break her heart i know i will we have never cheated on eachother but i know this has to end. What will i say what will i do anything please please help
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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There isn't anything you can do to prevent her emotions from flying out of control. Women hate goodbyes and will do anything they can to limit how wild their emotions will fly. Breaking up with her will probably make her more attracted to you.
You must keep in mind what's best for YOU. If this woman isn't good for you, there's no need to continue with her. Staying with her will only prevent you from moving on to another woman you're more compatible with.
The only thing I can advise is don't make it a nasty breakup. No name calling and no pointing out her imperfections. Just tell her that she isn't very compatible with you, and then end it. Cut all contact with her and move on. It's still going to affect you, but time will heal any emotional pain you're feeling.
Good luck.
You must keep in mind what's best for YOU. If this woman isn't good for you, there's no need to continue with her. Staying with her will only prevent you from moving on to another woman you're more compatible with.
The only thing I can advise is don't make it a nasty breakup. No name calling and no pointing out her imperfections. Just tell her that she isn't very compatible with you, and then end it. Cut all contact with her and move on. It's still going to affect you, but time will heal any emotional pain you're feeling.
Good luck.
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'breaking up is hard to do' ? ;-)
the best advice is to be honest and telling her that she is a nice girl, but that you really do not see any future in your relationship ( no reason given - no matter how much she asks ! ), and that it would be utterly unfair for you to waste her time
and for gawds sake do include: but lets still be friends huh ?
/ date101
'breaking up is hard to do' ? ;-)
the best advice is to be honest and telling her that she is a nice girl, but that you really do not see any future in your relationship ( no reason given - no matter how much she asks ! ), and that it would be utterly unfair for you to waste her time
and for gawds sake do include: but lets still be friends huh ?
/ date101
i know its for the best..."She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.