Hey im 26 years old i have been seeing this girl for just over 2 and a half years i started going out with her on the rebound from a previous relationship - the thing was i thought everything was working out good but really i know in the back of my mind she is not the girl for me ( the reason being she is very much a mummys girl telling her every little detail) along with calling me spoilt because i insist on taking a holiday atleast once a year but i work damn hard and want to enjoy myself travelling is a great pleasure to me - Help what will i do i dont want to break her heart i know i will we have never cheated on eachother but i know this has to end. What will i say what will i do anything please please help
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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There isn't anything you can do to prevent her emotions from flying out of control. Women hate goodbyes and will do anything they can to limit how wild their emotions will fly. Breaking up with her will probably make her more attracted to you.
You must keep in mind what's best for YOU. If this woman isn't good for you, there's no need to continue with her. Staying with her will only prevent you from moving on to another woman you're more compatible with.
The only thing I can advise is don't make it a nasty breakup. No name calling and no pointing out her imperfections. Just tell her that she isn't very compatible with you, and then end it. Cut all contact with her and move on. It's still going to affect you, but time will heal any emotional pain you're feeling.
Good luck.
You must keep in mind what's best for YOU. If this woman isn't good for you, there's no need to continue with her. Staying with her will only prevent you from moving on to another woman you're more compatible with.
The only thing I can advise is don't make it a nasty breakup. No name calling and no pointing out her imperfections. Just tell her that she isn't very compatible with you, and then end it. Cut all contact with her and move on. It's still going to affect you, but time will heal any emotional pain you're feeling.
Good luck.
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wasnt there a hit song called
'breaking up is hard to do' ? ;-)
the best advice is to be honest and telling her that she is a nice girl, but that you really do not see any future in your relationship ( no reason given - no matter how much she asks ! ), and that it would be utterly unfair for you to waste her time
and for gawds sake do include: but lets still be friends huh ?
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'breaking up is hard to do' ? ;-)
the best advice is to be honest and telling her that she is a nice girl, but that you really do not see any future in your relationship ( no reason given - no matter how much she asks ! ), and that it would be utterly unfair for you to waste her time
and for gawds sake do include: but lets still be friends huh ?
/ date101
i know its for the best..."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.