Alright heres my problem: I have been DJing this girl in one of my classes for a week or so now i got her number today and she wants to do sumthing 2nite or tommorow (no school cause of hurricane frances). I also found out that her brother (who is 9th grade, im in 10th) is dating my step-sister already. so would it be wierd to go out with my step-sisters boyfriends sister? (sorry if it doesnt make sense)
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dilemma
- Thread starter No_Sleep
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NEWBIE101
Senior Don Juan
No
Go hang out with her and get some.
Go hang out with her and get some.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Quit making excuses, and go hang out with her and lay on the mack. Easy as that.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
Pick on him and look dominant
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Stratocaster
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That will probably ease the tension between you two. Go for it.