Alright heres my problem: I have been DJing this girl in one of my classes for a week or so now i got her number today and she wants to do sumthing 2nite or tommorow (no school cause of hurricane frances). I also found out that her brother (who is 9th grade, im in 10th) is dating my step-sister already. so would it be wierd to go out with my step-sisters boyfriends sister? (sorry if it doesnt make sense)
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dilemma
- Thread starter No_Sleep
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NEWBIE101
Senior Don Juan
No
Go hang out with her and get some.
Go hang out with her and get some.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Quit making excuses, and go hang out with her and lay on the mack. Easy as that.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
Pick on him and look dominant
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Stratocaster
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That will probably ease the tension between you two. Go for it.