"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dilemma?

Jumpman23

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So this girl I am interested in works currently pt as a host at a restaurant. We have hung out before together. She says, " You should come by, we have great food etc." The question for me is who do I go with to this casual upscale restaurant. To be honest, I don't want to go w/ a buddy of mine out to dinner, or a family member. The question is who should I go with. But tonight I am supposed to meet up w/ a female friend for drinks at a restaurant/bar. So the question is, would it be okay for me to go w/ a female friend to the restaurant where the girl I am interested in works? I don't want her (hostess at the restaurant) to get the wrong idea, b/c I am interested in her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Phyzzle

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It would be perfectly fine. Don't worry about her getting the wrong idea. Just ask her out for something later. If she wants to clear it up, she'll ask.

Of course, I don't see why you have to go if you don't feel like it. Just ask her to do something else. I don't imagine it's very crucial that you see her at work.
 

Jumpman23

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Phyzzle said:
It would be perfectly fine. Don't worry about her getting the wrong idea. Just ask her out for something later. If she wants to clear it up, she'll ask.

Of course, I don't see why you have to go if you don't feel like it. Just ask her to do something else. I don't imagine it's very crucial that you see her at work.
thats true, I am going to go someplace else, I will call l her and she if she can meet up after work, hopefully she will be able to go.
 
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