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Dilated Pupils

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Okay, so this is sort of a discussion/question sorta thing.

Just about an hour ago I was with this girl at her house, and we were on her bed, and I had played some guitar for her. Throughout the night, I had kissed her on the cheek a few times, and once a small kiss on the lips.

Pretty quickly afterwards I noticed that her pupils had gotten very large, enough to the point where I commented on it.

I've heard of dilated pupils having to do with attraction, but I've never known if it was true or not. Do you guys think it is?
 

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Jesus man you were in her bed. who gives a **** what her eyes were doing
 
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I knew there would be a response like that. I'm not asking for advice, but really just a question. For future reference as well.
 
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When a person's pupils get larger, it means they wants to see more of you. When they get smaller, it means they want to see less of you.

Now, drugs could be a factor, as could low lighting, but chances are she was highly attracted if her "eyes were like saucers".
 
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Peoples pupils dilate when they see something they like.. Or as the above poster stated, drugs and lighting can have an effect on them.

But seriously.. This isn't a romance movie, next time you're in bed together put your guitar down and be more aggressive!
 

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When a girl "gives you the eye" - you subconsciously observed her pupils getting larger instantly when she looked at you.

When a girl "gives you a dirty look" - you subconsciously observed her pupils getting smaller instantly when she looked at you.
 
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Things werent really right to get too intimate. I'm just 16, no car, and we werent alone the whole day. I was just about on my way out when all this was happening. probably in the course of 30 to 45 minutes.

Anyways, thank you guys for all that, it's reallt interesting as well as reassuring :)

and whats an IOI?
 
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