Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DIGITS or NUMBER?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Cassanova_Child

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he's overthinking i think. you could say, "write down your contact information", or anything along the lines of getting her number, and you'd get it, as long as you played it smooth beforehand.
 

DJVladdy

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Say digits. Be cool about it, not trying to be a gangsta.
 

just so suave

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It does'nt matter which you say, shes still not gonna tell you.

No but seriously just say what you're more comfortable with, shes not going to care how you ask lol. Don't worry about "setting off the red flags and making it sound like a pick-up".

I've been away from this site for over a year, just came back tonight, and i've learnt so much just from experience. One major thing i've realised is that her giving you her number is not the same as her liking you. I used to go for the number after barely any conversation at all, an sometimes i'd get the number but it wouldn't lead to anything. You should aim to have a decent conversation with the girl and have a laugh with her before you ask for her number. It's not about 'getting her number cus then i'll be in :)' its about having a fun conversation with her and seeing what happens.

I've also learnt not to expect success everytime at all, it really is more like every 1 in 4/5 girls you meet that will like you.

Salmence seems to have cracked it.
 

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Wolf said:
Why is it neccessarily bad that you show interest in her? Sometimes after I ask for a gal's number/show some sort of interest she acts really different towards me, almost as though it automatically makes me her boyfriend. Nothing wrong asking for a gal's number. Maybe focusing on stuff like that helps you (as you seem to have your **** together in terms of women) but I agree with the guy who said focusing on such things messes up your game.

I say number by the way, seeing as digits isn't as direct, in my opinion that is.
It depends. Some women think they're having a normal conversation and then if a guy out of the blue asks for her number it can sometimes spoil the interaction when she thinks, "Oh, that's all he's interested in..." or something to that effect. Asking for a phone number is something guys do when they want to pick a chick up. "What's a good way of keeping in touch?" doesn't evoke that response, even when that's exactly what you're doing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skydiver43127

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"Hey, write your number down so I can call you sometime" :)

The noun is irrelevant. But don't ask her for anything - just instruct her what to do.
 

facadegeniality

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Number!

If u wanna be different, go for "How can I reach you?"

Digits is too "off" nobody uses that in conversation esp when referring to telephone numbers.
 
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