"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Difficulty making financial decisions

christie

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Probably females have more difficulty than men with this.

The three things I keep reminding myself is to
1. remember what value system is important to me
and
2. prioritise what must be done
and
3. determine all the facts and discover what the unknown variables are

Yet I still have a delay in committing to a final decision. I need a personal accountant or trustee, I think. Maybe a coach.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Probably females have more difficulty than men with this.

The three things I keep reminding myself is to
1. remember what value system is important to me
and
2. prioritise what must be done
and
3. determine all the facts and discover what the unknown variables are

Yet I still have a delay in committing to a final decision. I need a personal accountant or trustee, I think. Maybe a coach.
Coming from a past of part time futures/options trading background, the One killer to successful financial investments/matters is becoming emotionally or fantasy involved in the possible outcome.
An outside professional perspective is the Only way to go if the financial aspect isn’t your strong suit, but bottom line, You always approve of your options…
 

christie

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Coming from a past of part time futures/options trading background, the One killer to successful financial investments/matters is becoming emotionally or fantasy involved in the possible outcome.
An outside professional perspective is the Only way to go if the financial aspect isn’t your strong suit, but bottom line, You always approve of your options…
"I always approve of my options"

Like, that's what's stopping me from deciding? Too many options?

Or like, a warning to me to make sure I'm the one who has final say?

Or like I'm overthinking this and forgetting occam's razor or k.i.s.s.?



I'm such a creative problemsolver that I'm already spinning tangents off of tangents and getting an emotional boost from what I fantasize the results will be.

Perfect heads up you gave me. Thanks.
 
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