"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Difficulty making financial decisions

christie

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Probably females have more difficulty than men with this.

The three things I keep reminding myself is to
1. remember what value system is important to me
and
2. prioritise what must be done
and
3. determine all the facts and discover what the unknown variables are

Yet I still have a delay in committing to a final decision. I need a personal accountant or trustee, I think. Maybe a coach.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Probably females have more difficulty than men with this.

The three things I keep reminding myself is to
1. remember what value system is important to me
and
2. prioritise what must be done
and
3. determine all the facts and discover what the unknown variables are

Yet I still have a delay in committing to a final decision. I need a personal accountant or trustee, I think. Maybe a coach.
Coming from a past of part time futures/options trading background, the One killer to successful financial investments/matters is becoming emotionally or fantasy involved in the possible outcome.
An outside professional perspective is the Only way to go if the financial aspect isn’t your strong suit, but bottom line, You always approve of your options…
 

christie

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Coming from a past of part time futures/options trading background, the One killer to successful financial investments/matters is becoming emotionally or fantasy involved in the possible outcome.
An outside professional perspective is the Only way to go if the financial aspect isn’t your strong suit, but bottom line, You always approve of your options…
"I always approve of my options"

Like, that's what's stopping me from deciding? Too many options?

Or like, a warning to me to make sure I'm the one who has final say?

Or like I'm overthinking this and forgetting occam's razor or k.i.s.s.?



I'm such a creative problemsolver that I'm already spinning tangents off of tangents and getting an emotional boost from what I fantasize the results will be.

Perfect heads up you gave me. Thanks.
 
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