Difficulty Advancing

[Zod]

I've been having difficulties moving things along. For the past 2 months of school, I've gotten 20 numbers. Now, heres the thing, once I get the number - I don't have an urge to call the girl. I know I'm not scared to actually call them, and talk to them on the phone. But, I have no idea how to proceed onto the next stage.

I would figure, for most guys, once you get the number, isn't that when the easy part starts? I find I am most scared and fearful of the things that I most want to do with a girl(kiss, make-out, etc). I just can't bring myself to do things that are more sexual. I would figure all a guy wants to do is **** a really hott girl, but, when it comes down to it, why is there such anxiety/fear/nervousness? I mean, I know after the fact I will have really enjoyed it, but I just can't bring myself to call these girls up and just say, "hey, lets chill at my place later today" or "hey, lets go do something".

I even think things like, "I could kiss this girl right now, shes into me", but I don't do it, and I don't go for it. Maybe I'm not a sexual being, but when I'm away from girls that's what my minds on. When I am with them, it just never really enters my mind.

Is this the case for anyone else?

Any input on the situation?

 

[cablecow15]

getting the number is the hard part
once you get the number just play cool
like you dont like her so much it will drive her crazy
then she wil be calling you. just make shure to call her
like 4 days after you get the number.
(so you give the effect that you dont care)
besides you should not have that much trouble
scince you have 20 numbers
did you call any of them yet??

 

[Zod]

Yeah I've called a couple, but I get that anxiety of not knowing what to do next.

It's not really how I act around them, I just don't have the urge to advance the relationship, because I don't know how to move it in that direction.

 

[cablecow15]

thats interesting but i can understand that
i have a problem just kissing a girl to it feels weird
the only way i can do it is to look in
there eyes until they know what you want.
Try look for a girl that seems nervous of moving on to
or just try somthing random instead of a movie
try taking her to dinner in a nice place with waiters
she would never expect that. r just suck it up and go for it