"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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different between UB and HB

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david90

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what can u say to help me get over my fear of approaching HB? I have no problem with HB7 or or 8 but 9 and 10 still give my anxiety.

Isn't a girl just a girl regardless if she is a 7 8 9 or 10?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do what I do -- don't give women the rating of a 9 or 10. Unless you live in LA or something, that is.
 
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One of the guest speakers in David DeAngelo's advanced series had a great idea about this.

He basically claimed that the whole 1-10 system was the worst thing for guys.

He said that what the real system should be is 1 or 0. 1 - she's good enough for you. 0 - she's not.

Maybe that will reframe the situation and change your perspective.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KiInCollege

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I know a HB 9 who is very picky and available. Many of the men she meets is not a DJ and screws up somehow. Since we're kind of friends, sometimes I get to hear about it.

I don't know if she read the rules, but she follows many of the principles. She'll belong to the next DJ she meets, but until then, she's a hot girl who's single. They're out there. If I were not in a LTR and my girl wasn't hotter, she would be mine.

Keep practicing your DJ skills. I like the 1-10 classification, since I don't feel that a 10 is out of my level. Maybe a similar mindset would help you?
 
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I don't know if the 1 or 0 thing really works for me. I prefer Ladder Theory, which breaks it down into "girls I'd sleep with and admit to it", "girls I'd sleep with and not admit to it", "girls I'd sleep with drunk and admit to it" and "girls I'd sleep with drunk and not admit to it" (anything else not even being on the ladder).

And PeeGee... I do live in L.A. :D D'OH!!!
 
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i like 1 or 0 too!
otherwise we're making things way too complicated for ourselves
 
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Why is it that guys on this board always say HB7-HB10, but never anything lower?

Somehow its as if everyone here lives in a world where 7 is butt ugly and 10 is just average, since every single poster seems to hook up with HB10s every night.


Weird ain't it ;)
 
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IMO attaching a rating system to women assumes that some are better than others, and therefore that some will be "harder to catch" than others. It presupposes that an "HB10" is some sort of rare, heavenly creature (looks-wise) and that "HB7" is an pretty attractive woman, therefore automatically assigning a value to the higher rated women. Doesn't fit well into the true "DJ" mindset.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DD must got it from matrix idea ..

But i really like this idea too .. "the one" or zero ..
 
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