Difference between being mysterious and not interested?

[Ouzo]

I hear heaps of stuff about ...

• Don't ring her often
• Don't sms her often
• Don't smother her
• etc

But ...I don't want her to think I'm not interested?

Whats the dealeo here?

 

[Carpe_Diem]

I guess this comes back to making yourself the 'prize'.

Make it evident that you have your own life which is very full, but could possibly spare her a little time in your busy schedule if she can prove she's worth it.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Well it means you don't do those things excessivley I guess.

You don't wanna call her two or three times a day. You also don't wanna keep sending her texts all the time (especially if she has to pay for them by the message like they do in the USA unless they have a text package).

I would say take turns calling eachother. For every time I call I would expect her to call next time. Maybe at first I will call twice in a row if she doesn't call the next day, but try to keep a balance.

If you are the one always making the calls, initiating contact, making the dates, etc. then you seem desperate and needy. By letting her take turns with you doing those things you have a balanced relationship.

 

[Carpe_Diem]

well said.

 

[iCY]

theres other ways of showing her your interested, and thats done when your actually with her. not calling too often is just to make her think about you and wonder what your doing/where you are