Didn’t feel this was going anywhere, change in communication, etc, did I say the right thing?

[Rambo92]

Had two great dates with a girl. Before the first date we were communtating a LOT. She was giving me 4-5 lines, acted interested, it felt easy. After date one, I asked her to text me when she got back and she did. I asked when she’s next free and she said “I’m free whenever you are ” and we set the date up on the spot, 15-20 minutes between replies.

Since date two, the communication has dropped dramatically. She’ll take hours not minutes to respond, etc. Since asking her out on another date I got “Haha, maybe when I have some money ”. Three days after when I send her a text I get this:

Me: So I’ve had a weekend of robbing banks, near death experiences and chocolate ice cream.. Can you top that?

Her (hours later): Sounds thrilling :’) I’m so so hungover

Me: haha, are you free to meet after work on wednesday at 5:30? There’s a golf place, my treat

Her (5 mins after): I train on Wednesdays, Thursdays are my night off

Me (10 mins after): I won’t finish until 8:30 on Thursday unless you want to meet then or we can meet Friday

Then 4 hours pass and I get no reply so I send before going to bed:

Me: I’ve got to get an early night so why don’t we just do this some other time when your schedule is more open

I felt like I had to walk away because she was making it hard to meet up, like taking hours instead of minutes to reply, not confirming dates, not seeming as keen, etc. She said she was free Thursday but I was busy and she didn’t get back to confirm a day, so she didn’t seem enthusiastic and my gut feeling was she wasn’t that interested and wasn’t wanting to waste my time. Did I do the right thing by walking away?

 

[Trump]

Since asking her out on another date I got “Haha, maybe when I have some money ”. Three days after when I send her a text I get this:

Me: So I’ve had a weekend of robbing banks, near death experiences and chocolate ice cream.. Can you top that?

Her (hours later): Sounds thrilling :’) I’m so so hungover

Me: haha, are you free to meet after work on wednesday at 5:30? There’s a golf place, my treat

Her (5 mins after): I train on Wednesdays, Thursdays are my night off

Me (10 mins after): I won’t finish until 8:30 on Thursday unless you want to meet then or we can meet Friday

Bro I don't know, you ask this pretty girl out on a date, wanting to spend your valuable time and money on her, and she;

1) laughs
2) insults you

Then you text her again, and ask her out again? What does she have to do to show she is not interested, hit you?

If a girl said "maybe when you have some money.'
I'd say 'Take care, don't forget to write.'

Definitely wouldn't push harder to try to sleep with her.

 

[Rambo92]

Bro I don't know, you ask this pretty girl out on a date, wanting to spend your valuable time and money on her, and she;

1) laughs
2) insults you

Then you text her again, and ask her out again? What does she have to do to show she is not interested, hit you?

If a girl said "maybe when you have some money.'
I'd say 'Take care, don't forget to write.'

Definitely wouldn't push harder to try to sleep with her.

No she said when she has some money. She bought a laptop for work recently so she was short on cash

 

[lizardking82]

I asked her to text me when she got back and she did.

That's a no-no. That's fatherly care. You cannot possibly care that much about a person on the first date.

On a bigger scale and picture, two dates went alright and now for some reason, she has backed off. You went after what you wanted, but now it's time to put it to sleep. If she comes back and you still interested, make your sexual intentions clear and take it from there. UNTIL THEN, no more action from your side.

 

[RangerMIke]

You date to see if you have a connection, you guys went out and she just didn't feel it. She likes you but there isn't any 'chemistry', you left it up to her to get back with you and so that is what you do. I wouldn't try again with her unless she reached out.

The only thing I would have done different is not offer a counter. She should be doing this. She said she was busy on the day you asked, but did not offer up a counter date. I would have tried again in a week and if she was still 'busy' I'm onto the nest one.

 

[marmel75]

Making yourself way too available for her. You are killing her interest level.

 

[dude99]

Had two great dates with a girl. Before the first date we were communtating a LOT. She was giving me 4-5 lines, acted interested, it felt easy. After date one, I asked her to text me when she got back and she did. I asked when she’s next free and she said “I’m free whenever you are ” and we set the date up on the spot, 15-20 minutes between replies.

Since date two, the communication has dropped dramatically. She’ll take hours not minutes to respond, etc. Since asking her out on another date I got “Haha, maybe when I have some money ”. Three days after when I send her a text I get this:

Me: So I’ve had a weekend of robbing banks, near death experiences and chocolate ice cream.. Can you top that?

Her (hours later): Sounds thrilling :’) I’m so so hungover

Me: haha, are you free to meet after work on wednesday at 5:30? There’s a golf place, my treat

Her (5 mins after): I train on Wednesdays, Thursdays are my night off

Me (10 mins after): I won’t finish until 8:30 on Thursday unless you want to meet then or we can meet Friday

Then 4 hours pass and I get no reply so I send before going to bed:

Me: I’ve got to get an early night so why don’t we just do this some other time when your schedule is more open

I felt like I had to walk away because she was making it hard to meet up, like taking hours instead of minutes to reply, not confirming dates, not seeming as keen, etc. She said she was free Thursday but I was busy and she didn’t get back to confirm a day, so she didn’t seem enthusiastic and my gut feeling was she wasn’t that interested and wasn’t wanting to waste my time. Did I do the right thing by walking away?

Im free whenever you are. = She was interested and not getting attention from anyone else. Some where after date 2 a new dog landed in her yard.

Im so hung over right now = i was drinking partying and fukking new guy. I no longer need your attention.

I train wednesdays = i no longer need your attention.

When she started to take hours and days to get back to you or never initiated and ever texted you first you have to know when you reach out you are almost guarenteed to get the run around. This flaky behaviour is them hoping you can take a hint.

When you asked her about wednesday and she just said that she trains and then said thursday was her day off; this is when you stop counter offering and compromising. I would have just said "thursday doesnt work for me." If she didn't respond with "what works for you or when can i see you again," then she is finished.you ghost and next from then on. Do not waste your time.

When a chick says i am free whenever you are then puts up roadblocks the next time you try to make plans you say goodbye.

 

[JonnyD123]

Making yourself way too available for her. You are killing her interest level.

This.

The phone is for setting dates. That's it.

 

[Rambo92]

This.

The phone is for setting dates. That's it.

We met on POF and she was the one who insisted on texting to know a bit about me before we met, as she didn’t feel comfortable enough when I kept wanting to leave information about me until the date.

I always took 1-3 hours to reply as I’d leave responding until after work so i wasn’t texting every minute of the day, she was very quick with hers though.

 

[marmel75]

We met on POF and she was the one who insisted on texting to know a bit about me before we met, as she didn’t feel comfortable enough when I kept wanting to leave information about me until the date.

I always took 1-3 hours to reply as I’d leave responding until after work so i wasn’t texting every minute of the day, she was very quick with hers though.

I'm talking about being available Wednesday, Thursday and Friday.

 

[jaymbrs]

The comment about her not having money makes it sound like she's calling you out for either making her spend too much on the dates, or you not picking up all the checks. It's possible she met someone else who is paying for her **** now. Move on.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

No she said when she has some money. She bought a laptop for work recently so she was short on cash

Ask her to come over and fvck. If she says no, pretend you were drunk the next day.

Tell her you'll lick her cl1t like a ferocious beast.