bigjohnson
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If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Otherwise known as "legitimate insecurity" brought on by the fact that most humans cheat and lie about it too or three...!bigjohnson said:If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
haha yeah it does sound like something a girl would say. but still my point stands: you really don't know what happened so don't start judging.In2theGame said:Come on Sprint, seriously that sounds like a girl's excuse. for example:...
BF: WTF? why were u sitting on his lap..
GF poor excuse: OMG someone pushed me on his lap... thats all.
BF: WHat??
GF Poor excuse: I tried to get away...
she might as well of said "I tried to get away but i was too busy being a AW!"
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
::Sigh::....................... No Comment.SkillzthatKillz said:For those who still care.
Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:
Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah
So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.SkillzthatKillz said:So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
IKO69 said:It always *begins* with her sitting in his lap, then before you know it....
Am I the only one that is irked this chick would be doing that in the first place since she already has a boyfriend?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just to add to Dons post, i think one of the key things that should of raised a red flag is that she "Denied it at first" like you said, she tried taking you for a sucker and if she denied THAT? who knows what else she did or what else she will deny,.... think about it. women love to hide behind smoke and mirrors, UNTIL the DJ comes and clears the smoke and bashes the mirrors so theres no where to hide.DonGorgon said:All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.
The word "boyfriend" means nothing at all anymore.. MOst women thrive on their independence and perrogitive... If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..
NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only god for f'ing
Yup, if she was serious about a relationship she would be washing his socks and cleaning his appt or something, cooking dinners and otherwise proving her prowess at fulfilling her role. She's out drinking with the boys instead. That is a whore in action.DonGorgon said:If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..
NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only good for f'ing
SkillzthatKillz said:For those who still care.
Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:
Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah
So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No, you're not a DJ. Most of the folks on this forum aren't DJs. They're PUAs and man sluts.SkillzthatKillz said:I am a DJ, and i did the DJ thing (i think)