bigjohnson
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If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Otherwise known as "legitimate insecurity" brought on by the fact that most humans cheat and lie about it too or three...!bigjohnson said:If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
haha yeah it does sound like something a girl would say. but still my point stands: you really don't know what happened so don't start judging.In2theGame said:Come on Sprint, seriously that sounds like a girl's excuse. for example:...
BF: WTF? why were u sitting on his lap..
GF poor excuse: OMG someone pushed me on his lap... thats all.
BF: WHat??
GF Poor excuse: I tried to get away...
she might as well of said "I tried to get away but i was too busy being a AW!"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
::Sigh::....................... No Comment.SkillzthatKillz said:For those who still care.
Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:
Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah
So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.SkillzthatKillz said:So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
IKO69 said:It always *begins* with her sitting in his lap, then before you know it....
Am I the only one that is irked this chick would be doing that in the first place since she already has a boyfriend?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just to add to Dons post, i think one of the key things that should of raised a red flag is that she "Denied it at first" like you said, she tried taking you for a sucker and if she denied THAT? who knows what else she did or what else she will deny,.... think about it. women love to hide behind smoke and mirrors, UNTIL the DJ comes and clears the smoke and bashes the mirrors so theres no where to hide.DonGorgon said:All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.
The word "boyfriend" means nothing at all anymore.. MOst women thrive on their independence and perrogitive... If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..
NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only god for f'ing
Yup, if she was serious about a relationship she would be washing his socks and cleaning his appt or something, cooking dinners and otherwise proving her prowess at fulfilling her role. She's out drinking with the boys instead. That is a whore in action.DonGorgon said:If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..
NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only good for f'ing
SkillzthatKillz said:For those who still care.
Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:
Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah
So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
No, you're not a DJ. Most of the folks on this forum aren't DJs. They're PUAs and man sluts.SkillzthatKillz said:I am a DJ, and i did the DJ thing (i think)