"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did she cheat?

bigjohnson

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If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DonGorgon

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bigjohnson said:
If you think she might be cheating, she probably is. Men have excellent subconscious radar for those cues, probably came in handy in the past.
Otherwise known as "legitimate insecurity" brought on by the fact that most humans cheat and lie about it too or three...!
 

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In2theGame said:
Come on Sprint, seriously that sounds like a girl's excuse. for example:...

BF: WTF? why were u sitting on his lap..

GF poor excuse: OMG someone pushed me on his lap... thats all.

BF: WHat??

GF Poor excuse: I tried to get away...

she might as well of said "I tried to get away but i was too busy being a AW!"
haha yeah it does sound like something a girl would say. but still my point stands: you really don't know what happened so don't start judging.

OP: if you feel like you've lost trust in her then you might as well drop her because it's never going to work now. it sounds like she likes the guy. don't be surprised if you see them together after you break it off.
 

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Doubt it. Whenever we went on a euro trip with two gorgeous blondes (both taken) they where always sitting on my knee and holding hands whilst walking around nothing ever happened and nothing ever happened between them and anyone else, girls do it don't worry about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I would just tell her that you don't like what you don't like. If she gives you **** about it, then it's just whatever, she's a FB until she's not fun anymore. Otherwise you have your problem fixed and move onto something more important.
 

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For those who still care.

Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:

Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah

So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
 

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It always *begins* with her sitting in his lap, then before you know it....

Am I the only one that is irked this chick would be doing that in the first place since she already has a boyfriend?
 

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SkillzthatKillz said:
For those who still care.

Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:

Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah

So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
::Sigh::....................... No Comment. :rolleyes:

The only thing i will say is...... You let her off the hook too easily and she will consider that when she thinking its "OK" to take another pic with the dudes c0ck in my hand. "Its okay because SkillzthatKillz will let me off the hook"
 

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SkillzthatKillz said:
So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.
All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.


IKO69 said:
It always *begins* with her sitting in his lap, then before you know it....

Am I the only one that is irked this chick would be doing that in the first place since she already has a boyfriend?

The word "boyfriend" means nothing at all anymore.. MOst women thrive on their independence and perrogitive... If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..

NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only good for f'ing
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonGorgon said:
All the smoke and mirrors and dramatic distractions does not change the fact that she cant be trusted so if you want trustworthyness she is not the one for you but if you dont care that she is cheating then fine... Just dont go in thinking that the monster is a mouse.





The word "boyfriend" means nothing at all anymore.. MOst women thrive on their independence and perrogitive... If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..

NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only god for f'ing
Just to add to Dons post, i think one of the key things that should of raised a red flag is that she "Denied it at first" like you said, she tried taking you for a sucker and if she denied THAT? who knows what else she did or what else she will deny,.... think about it. women love to hide behind smoke and mirrors, UNTIL the DJ comes and clears the smoke and bashes the mirrors so theres no where to hide.
 

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DonGorgon said:
If she cared about her boyfriend then she would not sit in other in mens laps and then lie about it and she is doing it boldly in pubic around people who know her boyfriend..

NOTE: This woman has proven that at this point in her life she is only good for f'ing
Yup, if she was serious about a relationship she would be washing his socks and cleaning his appt or something, cooking dinners and otherwise proving her prowess at fulfilling her role. She's out drinking with the boys instead. That is a whore in action.

Western women expect men to qualify for our role (earning, protecting, etc) but then think they have nothing to do except have their new surrogate daddy care for their every whim. Screw that.
 

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In my mind as follows;

If you don't trust her, why you with her?

If you're being insercure, why you screwing up something that might have worked?
 

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Your halfhearted breakup ploy is not going to change her behavior. If you make a decision to end a relationship, you better be able to follow through and end it. Otherwise, it reinforces the belief in her mind that all she has to do is cry a bit and you'll take her back.

Regardless of whether or not she cheated, she's being disrespectful to you.

There are guys that you don't have to worry about (i.e. her gay friends, her old platonic childhood friend, your mutual friend that's in a happy relationship). If she was sitting in the lap one of those, it's no big deal.

This other didn't fit into ANY of those categories. She KNEW that she was crossing a line by flirting with a guy that would make you feel insecure, had you been present. Woman KNOW these things.

Will she cheat with him? It doesn't matter. The issue here is respect. You shouldn't ever have to worry that your girlfriend might be cheating. If you do, then she's not really your girlfriend.
 

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SkillzthatKillz said:
For those who still care.

Ok so I told her about the picture at first she denied it. We must have broken up and gotten back together about 5 times last night, lol. Broke up, had sex got back together, broke up had sex got back together, broke up, watch TV got back together. Haha. It was a silly saga. I broke up with her this morning again, went into work, called her I’m like:

Baby you want to get back together
She’s like
Yeah

So in the end we got back together lol. Break ups are fun and crazy. Anyway yeah I don’t think sitting on his lap warrants a break up (although it almost did….. many times). But yeah I think after last night and seeing how upset I was she’d be crazy to pull that Sh!t again. And if she’s does, I give you all my word ill kick her @ss to the curb.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA !

Oh man I have never laughed like this in such a long time, oh man ....hahaha you come on HERE to ask for advice since you were THINKING that she cheated. You brought it up to her she DENIED it to you at first then spilled the beans....you acted like a little b1tch and she used SEX to stop you from thinking about it and played you like the fool you are it was pretty funny to see.

Then you ASK her if SHE wants to get back togethor....wow just wow.

I cant wait to see your next thread and what you should do about your lying girlfriend.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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You should just dump her because she will only cheat on you more and eventually dump you herself. The posters above me said what needed to be said and you should've dumped her for good just for the photo alone. You have given her way too much slack. If it was the other way around she would've raised cain and you'd be attending a singles night right now.
 

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C'mon guys, me and her are in a new relationship. Maybe she pulled this crap with her other b/f. So she thinks its ok. Im not going to break up with someone over one picture. And i honestly don’t believe she is cheating on me. All that bothered me was the fact that she was sitting on some other guys (friends) lap. Maybe this girl does have a little crush on this guy....but she is still with me. She could be with him...but she’s still with me.

I am a DJ, and i did the DJ thing (i think) and i really let her know that if she wants to do this type of thing thats fine, but she'll do it as someone else’s g/f not mine. Trust me guys i didn’t "let her off easy". I really gave it to her and even said things that really hurt her, and she was still willing to have me as her b/f.....that’s gotta mean something. Sitting on a guys lap i can take its not like she made out with him or something.
 

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SkillzthatKillz said:
I am a DJ, and i did the DJ thing (i think)
No, you're not a DJ. Most of the folks on this forum aren't DJs. They're PUAs and man sluts.

Being a DJ isn't about moving on. Being a DJ is about moving forward. There's a big difference.
 
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