"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did my neg hit right

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I was setting up a group assignment for school with my group mates and one of them is a HB8.7. So we are talking and i didn't realize that we have veteran's day tommorow, which is when we decided to meet up. So i throw a neg at her like this (because like me she didn't remember about veterans day either)

Path: So i guess anytime tomorrow is good (i look at her). Because you didn't know school was canceled so you probably didn't make any plans.

She looked like it hit her a little too hard, but she was smiling afterwards. Now that i read it on paper it looks a little harsh what do you guys think? I did say it with a smile
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Pathgen said:
I was setting up a group assignment for school with my group mates and one of them is a HB8.7. So we are talking and i didn't realize that we have veteran's day tommorow, which is when we decided to meet up. So i throw a neg at her like this (because like me she didn't remember about veterans day either)

Path: So i guess anytime tomorrow is good (i look at her). Because you didn't know school was canceled so you probably didn't make any plans.

She looked like it hit her a little too hard, but she was smiling afterwards. Now that i read it on paper it looks a little harsh what do you guys think? I did say it with a smile
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Nah.. she's gonna be fine.:rolleyes:
 
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If she got offended by that, she's crazy.

from my experience, negs and things along those lines often seem worse in hindsight.

You did nothing over the line.
 
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haha no it's all good.

i have a problem of sometimes insulting the girl.
 
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i have a problem of sometimes insulting the girl.
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I know its not gonna kill her lol i just thought maybe i went over the line with that one. Well thanks guys for the input
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You can say even very harsh things as long as you let them know you're joking. Sometimes, the harsher the neg hit, the more successful it is.

I have a thing going with this one chick. She fell over one day walking down hill and got a few cuts and bruises. When she told me about it I just laughed and made fun of her for it. Of course, all the while I let her know I was kidding. But it turned into a sort of running joke.
 
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