"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok so theres this girl in one of my summer classes. One day about a week ago I brought some dougnuts (really for her) and offered her one. She took it. Then I was like "hey you want to meet up somewhere for lunch" she said no shes busy. Well today was the last day of class so I gave her a peice of paper with my phone number, and email address. What are the chances shell call?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what you did woulda worked when you were 11-13 years old

how many different girls are u approaching? I hope you arent focused on just this ONE
 
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If she is a large, dougnut devouring beasty then yeah... she might call you for another doughnut.

But seriously, I think the chances are slim unless your the alpha-male of the class and have shown some sort of personality withought using props.

Also, instead of asking a question that can be easily shot down with a big "NO", ask something along the lines of "Hey, why dont you meet up with me for lunch?" This eliminates the "NO" answer and even if she shoots it down she will most likely only give you an explanation for why she cant. It also shows confidence because your not asking her for permission to take her out, your giving her an invitation. Which a lot of guys dont do.

Hope this helps Silenthill
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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silenthill said:
Ok so theres this girl in one of my summer classes. One day about a week ago I brought some dougnuts (really for her) and offered her one. She took it. Then I was like "hey you want to meet up somewhere for lunch" she said no shes busy. Well today was the last day of class so I gave her a peice of paper with my phone number, and email address. What are the chances shell call?
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Is this the extent of your verbal interactions with this girl? If it isn't, give more information.

If it is then I see you have made over 100 comments. Not to sound like a smart aZZ, but just wondering if you have you even read the Bible yet? If you have maybe you should reread it. I see three mistakes here. Supplicating, open ended date request, giving your number and not getting hers.
 
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