"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did I run into a fellow SS-er?

Magma

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I was sitting at the poker table tonight and this younger guy (maybe mid twenties) sits at the table. He's quite intoxicated, and is in town on business for the week (from WA state I believe).

Amy, one of the dealers, was playing in the game and sitting next to him. She's a 5. I immediately recognized that this guy was trying to game her. He negged her about her ponytail, asked if she had a boyfriend, wanted to know if she would grab a bite with him later, etc. He was spitting all sorts of obvious canned lines.

Then, he started to ask the guy next to me, Mitch, if he wanted to be his "wingman" for the night. Mitch declined. Soon after, one of the dealers asked the guy his name, and he replied "Don Juan." He kept repeating that: "Call me Don. Don Juan. Don Juan. Don Juan." STFU already dude.

I would hope to God that this guy was not a SS-er, because his game was so atrocious. But the negging (on a FIVE!!!) and the repeated references to Don Juan was a bit too suspicious.

Come forward, whoever you are, and identify yourself! *shakes fist in the air*
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bible_Belt

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It goes both ways. Sometimes you see guys doing it well.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143490&page=3

Bible_Belt said:
I was impressed by the fights. I saw them at Joe's in downtown Chicago at lookyoung's recommendation. I think a guy who sat next to me was a student of seduction material. He looked like Style with his shaven head. He established social proof by talking to my gf and I. Then he opened two girls at the table next to him. He got them sitting with him within a few minutes. Then the three of them left together. He went through those motions like he was working a checklist in his head. Well done, man, whoever you are.
 

SinJester

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Funny story. I doubt whoever that was would own up :p

I mean negging a 5 is bad enough but calling himself Don Juan is just lame and giving us a bad name!

I always worry that people I know will find my identity on here. Although I guess if they found it they probably would have to be a member and likely would not want to be exposed either. I am curious if people I know have looked into this kind of stuff. I mean how easy is it for some to goodle 'how to attract women' into google these days!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Wutang OR Skiptomylou and all his 'glory'.
 
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