"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There was a girl I used to work with that I though I saw recently out a bar. We used to flirt at work, went out to lunch a few times, but no socializing out of work. We were both interns, but I didn't want to escalate because of work and we literally sat two feet away from each other every day. I thought it could get awkward if I started to really pursue her, and things went south.

She went back to school after winter break, and I haven't talked to her since mid January. Last week, I thought I saw her when I was out at a bar, it turned out it wasn't her. But I sent her an email the next day, because I didn't have her number.

element0: Hey, thought I saw you out this weekend, did you turn 21 yet?

HB: no :( haha May 3! so exactly 1 month from today.

element0: That's right, just when school let's out. Have fun at (place I used to work), tell ***** I said whatup.

HB: haha okay will do. thats if i get a job there. i still havent emailed them about this summer yet.

element0: You'll work there. I saw ***** yesterday literally sprinting down Carson. What's your number? We gotta hit up Carson street sometime.

HB: ha too funny! he was texting me about how the lady we always saw in the hall was getting fired! yeah sounds good :) ***-***-****


So I waited a few days and texted her last night.

element0: Hey HB, it's element0, stalk T Swift lately?!

HB: Hey! Nah, thats more of a summer hobby when I don't have anything better to do haha how are you?

element0: Same old, just no more (place I used to work)...it feels great!

HB: Yeah, I'm dreading going back :( ive been putting off emailing them cuz I don't want to accept my fate. Did you get a new job then?

element0: I feel for you, that lab is hell on Earth! I got a job downtown doing cost analysis...they are actually putting me in charge of the interns this summer...gonna work them to death! How's Meadville treating you?

HB: Haha nice. Eh same as always. I'm writing a paper tho so I gtg focus, Ttyl.

element0: Fun...later


Not sure if I played this right, but the interaction seemed to flow between us, so I left the conversation feeling like I can further the interaction when she gets done with school. I haven't had a lot of practice with this stuff, so any comments are appreciated.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Allurre said:
Stop the text swapping. Set up a date and see how she responds. That will cut the fluff.
I plan to, but she is still at school (out of town) for a few more weeks, so I'm not going to ask her out until she gets back. I don't plan on texting her anymore.
 

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Yea you did a GREAT job, IF your goal is to BORE the pants off this girl.

You mostly talk about work, which she doesnt like, so when she thinks of you all she has to go on is WORK. tut :nono:

after she so freely gave her number, id have definitely skipped the texting and called after a couple of days. explained what days I was busy, and gave her a couple of days when your free. setup the date, BANG.

or you can keep texting her about work. YOUR choice.:eek:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ohhhhhhhhhhhh you're in school. that explains the texts and lack of chat.

shouldnt this be in the college forum?????
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
You mostly talk about work, which she doesnt like, so when she thinks of you all she has to go on is WORK. tut :nono:
Fair enough, I could/should have moved the dialogue in another direction, point taken.

after she so freely gave her number, id have definitely skipped the texting and called after a couple of days.
Fair enough, but we only exchanged a few texts, and she isn't going to be home from school until early May. I don't plan on contacting her again until that gets a little closer.
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
ohhhhhhhhhhhh you're in school. that explains the texts and lack of chat.

shouldnt this be in the college forum?????
There's a high school forum?
 
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