"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Did I handle the flake correctly or too harsh?

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So, I have a plate that I have been seeing for about 4 months. We've banged like 8-10x and don't meet that often, maybe every 2 weeks. She's just someone im dating, NOT LTR material.

Yesterday (friday), I set plans with her for tonight - she mentioned yesterday that she will be working, and i basically told her that if she is unsure, we should reschedule. She insisted that we meet.

Then today, no word from her. Now, im not one to chase a plate and keep confirming whether we are still on or not. So, I text her an hour before we were supp to meet and below is our convo

Me - Are you at work? If so, meet me at XYZ at 8:30 and we'll go from there.
She - I am. Can't commit to a meeting time. Can i take a rain check? Im free anyday this week.
Me - And when were u planning to let me know that you were canceling?
She - I thought i would get out by now & was totally into this presentation im working on. I spaced. Im sorry.
She - pls dont get annoyed. Im swamped & didnt do it on purpose.

I didn't respond to that.

Now, it's not the flaking that im p*ssed about - don't care if you dont wanna hang, and i dont care if you have some other dude on the side that u prefer to meet instead...OR if you're really at work. But i was p*ssed because it's Sat night, ive canceled other plans and more importantly, the "princess" thinks that she can be inconsiderate about someone else's time and just justify to herself that her actions are vindicated because she is "so busy".

do you think i'm acting harshly? and what to do if she calls me later tonight or plays mind games by accusing ME of being immature / not understanding?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Was a bit harsh..

Why didnt you just say meet me Mon/Tues/Wed at 8:30 ?
 
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Now you have control here, you didn't respond after she asked if you were annoyed. Text her at a later date and set up another meeting date. Act as if the first flake didn't happen and if she flakes again then forget her. Maybe she actually was doing work ...people do have jobs lol
 
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Yeah man, not harsh at all.
You handled this perfectly.
I've had the same thing happen to me before and I always act similar.
Not only will it make her be more careful around you (in the sense that she now knows your time is valuable) it will also improve her as a person character wise.
It seems like in todays world the value of someones word, giving your word that you're going to do something isn't as sacred as it was in the past.
 
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Fvck what she thinks. You don't just forget a planned date. Would she forget an interview?

I wouldn't even text her to set something up again.. I'd let her do the next text to set it up.. Unless you have no other plates and you are in need of a lay.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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headFirst said:
Fvck what she thinks. You don't just forget a planned date. Would she forget an interview?

I wouldn't even text her to set something up again.. I'd let her do the next text to set it up.. Unless you have no other plates and you are in need of a lay.
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Always have more than one girl.
 
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She is a jumpoff. (NO LTR Material that your smashing)

Why are you taking this girl out at all??? There is no damn point in taking a jumpoff out in public unless she is paying for you.
 
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