"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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did i come on too strong?

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ok i saw this chick on myspace does dance where i do karate.....there is a hip hop dancing class with ALL kinds of hot chicks, but the problem is after class they always seem to be in a rush....so i found one on myspace (i think she's hip hop) and it was also her b-day this weekend so in my reply i said "what are we gonna do"? well she answered on mon night, the night time when i get home from karate
she said she may go clubbin with her friends

ok things go ok, since there is a ballet class she jokingly asks if im in that, and i say "hell nah im too clumsy....and say no im in the hula class, ur welcome to stop by and see me shake my booty j/k" and i tell her she may know who i am but still don't admit im in the karate arate class after hip hop mondays.....and after i sent that i sent another message saying "hey wats ur email so i can add u to my buddy list"...

just out of curiousity and future reference, is that coming on too strong? since there are psycho's online i think that may have been after only the 2nd email...... next time i do this, (its just for practice, but ill admit she was like a hb 7 picture wise, in real life things are different) do u think i should wait b4 asking for email/number? i have moved on since she hasn't replied since tuesday but im just wondering...

i also tried to approach the bus driver i had (about hb 6, but i haven't seen her body since she's sitting in the chair, that and she seemed busy driving the bus) so i made only small talk.......

thanks for ur advice homies
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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OK I don't think you were being too forward. I think you were funny with hula bit but I don't think it's generally a good idea to make fun of yourself. You should've just said you were in the Karate class and you could've busted on her back when she teased you about being in ballet class.

Also, I read your other post and it also contained conversation where the HB mentioned she was going clubbing. Maybe you could take that and run with it, i.e., "Oh you like to go clubbing, where you going..I might want to check it out..maybe I'll run into you there, blah blah blah..


Anyway girls online tend to be flaky, so it's probably not anything you did.
 

xi phi pi

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Absolutely amazing. We've gone from people asking if they came on too strong in person to people asking if they came on too strong over the internet.

What's next?!
 
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lol thats the thing, im not a clubber so it wouldn't work out...also the reason im asking if i came on too strong is in case i do actually find a chick im intereted in on the internet s*hit wont' backfire...is it bad im asking this? oh well i needed advice
 

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good luck with the bus driver....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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