"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did I come on too strong in this facebook message...

Dragoo

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Here is what I said...

"I don\'t really use facebook but nice pic. I think I\'ve seen you around the VaTech campus in the past. U graduated VaTech already right?"

WHat do you guys think???
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What do YOU think. Strong is a relative word. Strong compared to what?
 

Dragoo

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darkguy9944 said:
Nope not really. I wanted to know if she graduated or not so I asked.


You guys don't know the context of anything so this was a dumb thread.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJVladdy

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you came on too Weak, and deep down you know why/how
 

jdon23

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Women know your hitting on them. Don't be so indirect and beat around the bush. This makes you have very tiny balls, and keeps them that way. Start saying things to produce an effect! If you talk to her like a friend, then thats how your relationship will be dictated

Go for a ballsy comment and see how she replies.. then keep it going and see how far it goes..

"Mmm you look sexy in that picture. I bet your the type of girl who likes to get spanked. Haha. Your secret is safe with me ;)"
 

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myspace is a lot easier. i dont know talking about things like school... bore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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