You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
He has been here for only a few weeks and his on his way to passing my post count!! The bastard is not human - he must be a machine - a human typewriter!!Originally posted by BigWillyStyle
aequitas(your name is very annoying how you made it) you racked up 595 posts and you've been here for only one month. Idle hands to the extreme.
I'll throw that into my 'things to do list' LOL. How was that?Originally posted by Happiness Renewed
bikker, maybe if you had put your "lol" after your jokes in caps(LOL). The joke would have been funnier. Everyone likes people who laugh at their own jokes, you should do it more.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You´re hilarious.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
He has been here for only a few weeks and his on his way to passing my post count!! The bastard is not human - he must be a machine - a human typewriter!!
For being only 18 years old he has a lot to say - I guess he has one of those "helping" personalities and feels that he is doing his duty!
I hope you break my rpost count record Aequitas! Go for it!!