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Smooth, you expect us to believe that he called you for phone sex??
:crackup: Comeon now...
:crackup: Comeon now...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
He did. I wouldn't make things up, I have the upmost respect for this forum, and its moderators, except for the phone-sex crazed Diablo.Docs said:Smooth, you expect us to believe that he called you for phone sex??
:crackup: Comeon now...
:crackup:Smooth Player 056 said:Diablo is a fraud, sorry to say. After posting my pics on another forum, he PM'ed me asking me to have phone-sex.
All though the people that HATE DIABLO are not stepping up, I assure you there are more than 30, we have 52 on our forum now.
smooth
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Vincent said:Wow this sure is a lot of attacks without any basis. Using pseudonyms sure doesn't help your cause. Also let's see some proof that diablo is actually a bad moderator. I want links to threads, specific quotes of 'good' threads that he unfairly closed. Negative comments that were directed attacks and not just him being sarcastic. A screenshot of said PM would be nice. Otherwise all you're doing is commiting libel which is rather pointless on a forum where no one cares at all about your opinion.
Profound.Francisco d'Anconia said:You've got to understand that the Net allows many people who feel that they are slighted in their day to day lives to evoke some type of control or power from their keyboards without retribution. It's as easy as creating a new online identity if they are shut down. They can't do that in their every day lives. So they climb upon their digital soapbox to finally have a voice. They rally the troops who feel the same way. Not liking the Mods isn't the problem, it's just the symptom of something larger; probably just their need to be heard.
Technology naysayers in the media would lead you to think that this is caused by a "forever on" technological world that we live in. Computers and the Net is just a means, remember that the Net was available in the late 1960's and made publicly available in the early 80's. This 'phenomena' was not an issue 20 years ago.cant think of a user name said:Profound.
I myself have no idea how true that explanation is, but do you think this phenomenon is the product of wider societal issues such as globalization and the virtualisation of many aspects of everyday life... or... more specific to the individuals conducting anti-mod crusades?
You're absolutely right. After all, since I have this in person whenever I want, why would I want anything but your voice over a phone?Smooth Player 056 said:He did. I wouldn't make things up, I have the upmost respect for this forum, and its moderators, except for the phone-sex crazed Diablo.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You're right.Vincent said:Wow this sure is a lot of attacks without any basis. Using pseudonyms sure doesn't help your cause. Also let's see some proof that diablo is actually a bad moderator. I want links to threads, specific quotes of 'good' threads that he unfairly closed. Negative comments that were directed attacks and not just him being sarcastic. A screenshot of said PM would be nice. Otherwise all you're doing is commiting libel which is rather pointless on a forum where no one cares at all about your opinion.
So....there should be 20 topics on jacking off (since only 5 real topics exist now)?Smooth Player 056 said:You're right.
Example: Jerking off Thread
Closed by: Diablo
Diablo, there are many threads on jacking off, but they are old. Without any fresh threads, there would be 5 topics on this whole board.
Dude, there are new posts on "gaming your oneitis" everyday. Why aren't all of those closed?Docs said:So....there should be 20 topics on jacking off (since only 5 real topics exist now)?
That's the point. There's already threads about it. There's a 13 (or so) page thread about 6 months of not doing it, and yet someone makes a thread about refraining from doing it. Or how one is created about whether it's healthy. Doing a simple search will yield more then enough threads about it.
So, bad example.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Because I hit the computer at completely random times thoughout the day? I work a lot, so I throw in the odd post when I'm not too busy, or at this time of night because it's my idle time. Trust me, I have a life.PS: docs, why are you on 23 hours a day?
It is hard to say without knowing all that information.Francisco d'Anconia said:Technology naysayers in the media would lead you to think that this is caused by a "forever on" technological world that we live in. Computers and the Net is just a means, remember that the Net was available in the late 1960's and made publicly available in the early 80's. This 'phenomena' was not an issue 20 years ago.
I'd look into the groups of people who are using the Net in this fashion. Who are they socially, how old are they, what type of parental involvement did they have while growing up and find their commonalities. That information may give a hypothesis as to what may be the causes.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.