ilikecharlene
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How do, or did, you develop game?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Developing game
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sighsigh
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Learn theory ---> practice applying theory ---> profit.
ilikecharlene
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OK, but which theory? Which PUA artist is best?
I've found that a mixture of several has helped me, but mainly practical happiness on Youtube (not his real name of course) and David Wygant. It has helped me understand the psychology behind dating and my own actions.
I've found that a mixture of several has helped me, but mainly practical happiness on Youtube (not his real name of course) and David Wygant. It has helped me understand the psychology behind dating and my own actions.
sighsigh
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Pook. The Book of Pook. Read it and don't look back.
Amen to Pook and other authors that focus on realizing your potential as a man.
For me personally "game" didn't help much. With game I mean studying theories and routines. Applying the routines in real life with women resulted in temporary spikes of attraction with no real succes in terms of pulling women.
I think it somehow diluted my purpose as a man and as a result didn't actually help in the end. Most of the transformations I have seen (including my own) come from a solid inner foundation combined with going out and hitting it hard while having fun. Good luck!
For me personally "game" didn't help much. With game I mean studying theories and routines. Applying the routines in real life with women resulted in temporary spikes of attraction with no real succes in terms of pulling women.
I think it somehow diluted my purpose as a man and as a result didn't actually help in the end. Most of the transformations I have seen (including my own) come from a solid inner foundation combined with going out and hitting it hard while having fun. Good luck!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ilikecharlene
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what is the book of pook?sighsigh said:
* Learn to read body language - look for buying signs (she holds eye contact and smiles).
* Apply the 3 second rule - and know that it doesn't matter what you say if she likes you. You could walk up to her and say "Papa Smurf" and she'll giggle if she likes you.
* Practice. Walk up to women and ask their name. If they ask your name and extend their hand, shake their hand and have a conversation. If they don't, next.
* Don't ask for dates, offer dates. "I'm going to the mall tomorrow at 3PM if you want to join me." They can't reject you then.
* Know that Absence is the KEY. It is the flywheel to balance your approach. If you mess up: NC. If she messes up: NC. If it doesn't feel right: NC. If she flakes: NC.
* If you don't hear from her again, it's over.
* And YES looks matter. So get ripped and eat organic.
* Apply the 3 second rule - and know that it doesn't matter what you say if she likes you. You could walk up to her and say "Papa Smurf" and she'll giggle if she likes you.
* Practice. Walk up to women and ask their name. If they ask your name and extend their hand, shake their hand and have a conversation. If they don't, next.
* Don't ask for dates, offer dates. "I'm going to the mall tomorrow at 3PM if you want to join me." They can't reject you then.
* Know that Absence is the KEY. It is the flywheel to balance your approach. If you mess up: NC. If she messes up: NC. If it doesn't feel right: NC. If she flakes: NC.
* If you don't hear from her again, it's over.
* And YES looks matter. So get ripped and eat organic.