"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Developing a personality

solotak

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Hi,

As some may know, i'm trying to work on my social status and in doing so i've come to notice that personality is a fundamental to help you out in social settings.

The problem is, I don't have much of a personality and i'm trying to find ways to make one best suit me while attracting others. I won't to eliminate any boring and unfun behaviours out of my system, but it's hard for me and completly change over where i've had a reputation to just be passive in groups and not really open up to anyone.

I'd like some tips or a point of direction where i can build on my character and get known. I really got to work on humour and just fun things so that people enjoy hanging around me. So i'd like to encourage all you experienced dj's to help a fellow out and make myself unique, in a good way.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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spider_007

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slef help tapes (download it)

jim rohn-cultivating an unshakable character

i personally havn't gotten to the end of it (I keep falling alseep), but, it's a start
 

JazzPimpNYC

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1) Start reading classic literature.
2) Get your ass to the gym
3) Start practicing creative/performing arts.
4) Develop a circle of friends
5) Watch E! channel, read People magazine.
6) Take every social opportunity

Just some ideas.
 

iCY

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Originally posted by JazzPimpNYC
1) Start reading classic literature.
2) Get your ass to the gym
3) Start practicing creative/performing arts.
4) Develop a circle of friends
5) Watch E! channel, read People magazine.
6) Take every social opportunity

Just some ideas.
i dont think thats gonna help much with social status in highschool.

the best way to do it i believe is to make friends EVERYWHERE. then make friends with their friends and so on. its also good if you pick up a good hobby and make it known (try sports, weight lifting, basically nothing boring- no, not even chess)
just find ways to stand out of the crowd, talk more and talk louder so people hear you and remember you.
 

solotak

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Yes that would work great with social status, but i need help with developing a personality. The responsible characteristic that makes you interesting and fun to be with. I want to focus on developing a personality that is fun and fruitful (no not in a gay way). I'm asking for this to aid me with my social life.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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trying to change your personality completely is almost impossible. what you ought to be doing is picking up hobbies and charicteristics that make you more interesting to others. if you do this one step at a time, i guess you could "change" your personality
 

Sir Lancelot

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Originally posted by solotak
Yes that would work great with social status, but i need help with developing a personality. The responsible characteristic that makes you interesting and fun to be with. I want to focus on developing a personality that is fun and fruitful (no not in a gay way). I'm asking for this to aid me with my social life.
You already have a good personality, you just need to discover it. Do this by hanging out with as many different people as you can.

Instead of trying to create a personality that will appeal to everyone, sit back and think about WHO you are, and what kind of traits you believe you already have. Take up some new hobbies, meet new people, make something of your life. Then you'll have a story to tell, and you'll become a much more interesting and attractive person.
 
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