"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Developing a personality

solotak

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Hi,

As some may know, i'm trying to work on my social status and in doing so i've come to notice that personality is a fundamental to help you out in social settings.

The problem is, I don't have much of a personality and i'm trying to find ways to make one best suit me while attracting others. I won't to eliminate any boring and unfun behaviours out of my system, but it's hard for me and completly change over where i've had a reputation to just be passive in groups and not really open up to anyone.

I'd like some tips or a point of direction where i can build on my character and get known. I really got to work on humour and just fun things so that people enjoy hanging around me. So i'd like to encourage all you experienced dj's to help a fellow out and make myself unique, in a good way.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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spider_007

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slef help tapes (download it)

jim rohn-cultivating an unshakable character

i personally havn't gotten to the end of it (I keep falling alseep), but, it's a start
 

JazzPimpNYC

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1) Start reading classic literature.
2) Get your ass to the gym
3) Start practicing creative/performing arts.
4) Develop a circle of friends
5) Watch E! channel, read People magazine.
6) Take every social opportunity

Just some ideas.
 

iCY

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Originally posted by JazzPimpNYC
1) Start reading classic literature.
2) Get your ass to the gym
3) Start practicing creative/performing arts.
4) Develop a circle of friends
5) Watch E! channel, read People magazine.
6) Take every social opportunity

Just some ideas.
i dont think thats gonna help much with social status in highschool.

the best way to do it i believe is to make friends EVERYWHERE. then make friends with their friends and so on. its also good if you pick up a good hobby and make it known (try sports, weight lifting, basically nothing boring- no, not even chess)
just find ways to stand out of the crowd, talk more and talk louder so people hear you and remember you.
 

solotak

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Yes that would work great with social status, but i need help with developing a personality. The responsible characteristic that makes you interesting and fun to be with. I want to focus on developing a personality that is fun and fruitful (no not in a gay way). I'm asking for this to aid me with my social life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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trying to change your personality completely is almost impossible. what you ought to be doing is picking up hobbies and charicteristics that make you more interesting to others. if you do this one step at a time, i guess you could "change" your personality
 

Sir Lancelot

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Originally posted by solotak
Yes that would work great with social status, but i need help with developing a personality. The responsible characteristic that makes you interesting and fun to be with. I want to focus on developing a personality that is fun and fruitful (no not in a gay way). I'm asking for this to aid me with my social life.
You already have a good personality, you just need to discover it. Do this by hanging out with as many different people as you can.

Instead of trying to create a personality that will appeal to everyone, sit back and think about WHO you are, and what kind of traits you believe you already have. Take up some new hobbies, meet new people, make something of your life. Then you'll have a story to tell, and you'll become a much more interesting and attractive person.
 
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