I don't mean to be a downer, but I thought this was pretty mediocre. NOT BAD, just mediocre. Everything you've said in your post has already been mentioned in other articles in the DJ Bible. I know you used fun, off-the-cuff examples, but the lines you used on women sounded too canned and forced, and they are far too cheesey. Any women that falls for that crap isn't worth it.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Destroying Social Phobias
- Thread starter Mr. Fingers
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mr. Fingers
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legolas
35% percent is a little steep. You will be hearing from my lawyer!
Nooby Doo
It´s responses like yours that make posting worthwhile. Glad I could inspire you to action!
numlock
Thats too funny dude. You know I still struggle with this sometimes. Especially if she is unusually hot, a bit of my AFC creeps up and I forget to smile. Don´t beat yourself up about it. The best DJs have their AFC moments from time to time. Good Luck!
Sisko
Thanks for the stars!
Thank you Nick. Great job you are doing BTW..we all owe you thanks!
Master of the World
Ahh yes, the power of NOW. GLad you get it!
Oxide
Some cool people here. A nice fringe benefit of learning to improve yourself is you get to meet folks who are doing the same. My kinda crowd!
Capitol39
Hmm, the lone voice of dissension. Thats cool..you are entitled to your opinion. BUt like I said in my posts, my lines were not excellent but my DELIVERY was! Its really hard to convey the subtleties with text but I do try. Did it work for me? Ayup! Were the girls worth my time? You betcha! But you´ll just have to take my word on that.
chlywly
Thanks ... I think. (Damn am I that big of a cheeseball?)
Fingers signs off to rethink and fine-tune his game a little.
35% percent is a little steep. You will be hearing from my lawyer!
Nooby Doo
It´s responses like yours that make posting worthwhile. Glad I could inspire you to action!
numlock
Thats too funny dude. You know I still struggle with this sometimes. Especially if she is unusually hot, a bit of my AFC creeps up and I forget to smile. Don´t beat yourself up about it. The best DJs have their AFC moments from time to time. Good Luck!
Sisko
Thanks for the stars!
Thank you Nick. Great job you are doing BTW..we all owe you thanks!Master of the World
Ahh yes, the power of NOW. GLad you get it!
Oxide
Some cool people here. A nice fringe benefit of learning to improve yourself is you get to meet folks who are doing the same. My kinda crowd!
Capitol39
Hmm, the lone voice of dissension. Thats cool..you are entitled to your opinion. BUt like I said in my posts, my lines were not excellent but my DELIVERY was! Its really hard to convey the subtleties with text but I do try. Did it work for me? Ayup! Were the girls worth my time? You betcha! But you´ll just have to take my word on that.
chlywly
Thanks ... I think. (Damn am I that big of a cheeseball?)
Fingers signs off to rethink and fine-tune his game a little.
NINJA PIMP
Banned
Well Fingys, I have used your cheesy lines with great success. Just wanted to thank you for your posts. They have really helped my game ALOT. You have changed my life dude.
As far as fine-tuning, yeah you should always try to improve, but its like you said, the lines dont matter as much as the delivery. I opened a girl the other day at the laundromat with the cheesiest line. I told her she had beautiful eyes and she sincerely thanked me and complimented my eyes as well. In the past I woulda flubbed it with my insecure vibe but I could tell she was diggin my confidence, plus the compliment was sincere, her eyes were astunning shade of grey.
I got her number and met her later in the week for coffee. We had a great conversation. She was really smart and she got all my jokes. After we had laughed for a good hour and a half, I pulled out the Destiny Card. I told her that I usually do my laundry on the weekend and it was a total fluke that I met her. I then told her a brief story of how my laundry plans got postponed (funny story involving my cats) and right as we were both laughing, I told her I was glad that this little fluke had brought us together.
She smiled wide and said she was glad too. So glad that she wanted to thank my cats personally! I didnt even have to come up with an excuse to get her to my place. We only messed around because I didnt have any rubbers, but next time we meet it is ON! I would never have been able to pull this off before.
Thank you so much, you are the MAN!
NINJA PIMP (formerly known as Ninja Dude)
p.s.- Where the heck are ya?
As far as fine-tuning, yeah you should always try to improve, but its like you said, the lines dont matter as much as the delivery. I opened a girl the other day at the laundromat with the cheesiest line. I told her she had beautiful eyes and she sincerely thanked me and complimented my eyes as well. In the past I woulda flubbed it with my insecure vibe but I could tell she was diggin my confidence, plus the compliment was sincere, her eyes were astunning shade of grey.
I got her number and met her later in the week for coffee. We had a great conversation. She was really smart and she got all my jokes. After we had laughed for a good hour and a half, I pulled out the Destiny Card. I told her that I usually do my laundry on the weekend and it was a total fluke that I met her. I then told her a brief story of how my laundry plans got postponed (funny story involving my cats) and right as we were both laughing, I told her I was glad that this little fluke had brought us together.
She smiled wide and said she was glad too. So glad that she wanted to thank my cats personally! I didnt even have to come up with an excuse to get her to my place. We only messed around because I didnt have any rubbers, but next time we meet it is ON! I would never have been able to pull this off before.
Thank you so much, you are the MAN!
NINJA PIMP (formerly known as Ninja Dude
)p.s.- Where the heck are ya?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
One on One
Master Don Juan
This post is honestly the most important document I can ever remember reading my entire life. It is gold and has helped me immensely! Thank you, Mr. Fingers!
Dell SkyCat
Senior Don Juan
Your not the only fingers in town. You've got competition now
Evil-Rom
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If your referring to Señor Fingers...
I think its the same guy...
Mikelo2k
Senior Don Juan
Mr. Fingers == w00t
Nice post.
I like this post, because it's not all about subliminal commands and other bull**** that wouldn't work. He is right about the crutch, People use the Don Juanism and "Playa" sites to crutch them off the social phobia that girls are better than them.
Like the subliminal commands stuff, When guys use it. They think they actually are controlling something making them much more comfortable around the target(girls). So these sites are good in the sense that your fear of girls will be purged, but once you become yourself...
I like this post, because it's not all about subliminal commands and other bull**** that wouldn't work. He is right about the crutch, People use the Don Juanism and "Playa" sites to crutch them off the social phobia that girls are better than them.
Like the subliminal commands stuff, When guys use it. They think they actually are controlling something making them much more comfortable around the target(girls). So these sites are good in the sense that your fear of girls will be purged, but once you become yourself...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Re: The Tao of Mr. Fingers!
Geezz. A lot of things make sence for me now. I have met a person once you behaved in this way. After i read this undarstood a lot of things. I'm gonna read this and read this until i will memorize every sentence. I'm so f***en lucky that i found this thing. And i'm really seriuos and i mean it.
Geezz. A lot of things make sence for me now. I have met a person once you behaved in this way. After i read this undarstood a lot of things. I'm gonna read this and read this until i will memorize every sentence. I'm so f***en lucky that i found this thing. And i'm really seriuos and i mean it.
I just read this thread again for the first time in months, and it is JUST as powerful as it was the first go-around. This is great not only for the new members, but also for the guys looking for a kick in the ass. I definitely felt it!
poonologist
Don Juan
excellent post here.one of the great ones on this site.its going into my personal archive on the hd
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
I dont care what you say about this next comment. It's true for me anyway.
Forget pook. Forget Anti-Dump. Remember fingz. ... Pook had heavy influence from AD. AD was systematic. After all, remember the "machine?". He had his own reliable way, and never mentioned the connections and the other side of the game.
Mr Fingz on the other hand is the souuuuulful writer. The guy that truely stimulates that other side and gets the motivation going.
If you ever get around to reading this fingz, if you lurk or whatever, you've been the most influentially soulful poster on this board. BUMP!
Forget pook. Forget Anti-Dump. Remember fingz. ... Pook had heavy influence from AD. AD was systematic. After all, remember the "machine?". He had his own reliable way, and never mentioned the connections and the other side of the game.
Mr Fingz on the other hand is the souuuuulful writer. The guy that truely stimulates that other side and gets the motivation going.
If you ever get around to reading this fingz, if you lurk or whatever, you've been the most influentially soulful poster on this board. BUMP!
jiza101
Master Don Juan
/strokes fingerz hand :crackup:
This post really hit home man, im going to work threw it like homework to i am a master at all the gates :rockon:
This post really hit home man, im going to work threw it like homework to i am a master at all the gates :rockon:
avrilishot
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this is like the best fvucking advice ever.
thank you.
thank you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.