"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Desperation VS Desire

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1. quit jerking off - one to 2 days afterwards you will see your sexual drive go up when you see those "average" hot asses.

2. dont think that you are looking for one perfect woman. have sex with many of them not looking for anything else but physical (also mental to some extend) satisfaction.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Don Pablo
Do you go to TC Robertson High by any chance?

Nope, actually I almost went there, but I go to AHS. You from around here?




gruby... I don't jerk off every day. I havn't done it in about a week as of right now. Jerking off and having another person RIGHT HERE with you is a completely different experience. Not jerking off isn't going to make me desire women psychologically.
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On a different note. Today was the first day of school. I have a class up at college, so for fourth period I didnt have anything to do. I met up with this chick and we decided to go find a 'grassy place' to chill. So we got some coffee and went to a local park.

As soon as we left school, I completely changed with the way I treat her. Although at school I had my arm around her and was kinoing every few seconds, I didnt touch her once when we left.

I tried the damn 'fake it' ****...couldnt do it. I was sitting there feeling NO desire for this chick, nothing. I was half wishing I had a class to be in. I don't think I could kiss her...in a way that would be 'good' without actually wanting to.

So **** it, then we went to the library and then had to come back to school.

Next chick.

After school, she invited me to her house, her room, her bed...

I was trying a lot harder to seem interested this time. But intellectually DJing is like...lame... Anyway, she had a mirror, right in front of her bed, so I made some wiseass remark about that, and she said she SINGS to herself. So I tell her to do it, and she starts singing me some love song, holding my hands and touching my face and ****.

Then she whips out some zodiac book and looks up my birthday. The damn book paints me as a seductive magnetic person and all this ****.

The whole time...my body language was going "GOD I HOPE YOU DONT PLAN ON DOING ANYTHING PHYSICAL WITH ME"

We..again..just talked...

And I have a damn 20hr "love coupon" from this girl.(also a picture here: http://ee.1asphost.com/ECCDivinity/images/ppl008.jpg no thats not me :D)


I dont know...I am now seriously considering getting a therapist or something..
 

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i had kinda similar problem when i started working as photo assitant to photographers shooting models. i would hang out every day with gorgeous women that did completely nothing for me... i was getting worried because for some time those were the only women i was hanging out with (meaning no sex drive on my hand) soon though i realises that most of them are simply not my type. Yeah sure their face is pretty but they got no breasts (and i'm breast man) plus their height 5,8 to 6 compared to mine (6) was too tall to make them seem as if they needed my "protection."

Since then i stoped worrying about teh model girls and hand out more with my tapes (nicelys shaped medium breasts, 5.3-5.7, dark hair...). And i'm horny again.

You gotta find what YOU are attracted to and not what others/society tells you.
 

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i guess im broken...

Well...

Today I hung out with a third chick after school. She took me to this "grassy spot" (wtf is up with chicks and grass?) and we sat and kinoed and talked for a while.

Anyway, long story short, I told her I wanted to kiss her. Which is kinda true...I wanted to kiss her and feel something...lol

Anyway, before I know wtf is going on her face is mashed up against mine with her tongue in my mouth. I didnt even have time to close my eyes. So after the few seconds it took to realize what was going on I felt this intense great big ... nothing.

:(

I tried faking that I like it...but I think she knows something was wrong. For one thing...I said I wanted to kiss her... but she ended up kissing me...like three times. She licked and bit and kissed my neck and then licked and sucked on my earlobe and stuck her tongue in my ear...which was a new sensation...lol

Either way, I still felt nothing...and was more than glad to draw attention to her hair getting in my mouth when I was kissing her neck and ****...just cause I really had no instictual or emotional direction as to what I wanted to do to her.

So I dunno:confused:

Maybe I'm a Schizoid or something...feel free to respond everyone. I could use some words of wisdom
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Raptured Phoenix
...I can't say I am a MAN, because obviously men desire women, and for some reason I dont. I want to desire them...lol. But that's just not close enough.

So I don't know.
As I stated before, there is nothing we can do for you to make you desire women. It may be that you have an extremely low libido.

The question is do you desire men??
 

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hahaha

no

Damn, Im sitting here thinking about what im gonna do with this 4th chick i know, when the chick i kissed wants to "talk to me" tomorrow...

I dont think she took it as lightly as I did...:(
 
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Ok then - you are not a homo - I took you off of my homo list!!:D

Your solution - get 'Viagra' and see if this works when you have a girl in your grasp!!
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Your solution - get 'Viagra' and see if this works when you have a girl in your grasp!!
I dont have anything wrong with my biological responses;) except maybe for whatever chemicals im missing in my head that wont allow me to feel emotions. Although I think it is a psychological barrier.

In one of Blue Phoenix's posts, he had a link to a website about narcissism... I think I am a narcissistic schizoid...

I was going to go 'try out' the 4th chick that is interested in me, but I don't think its a good idea at all anymore.
 
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