"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Depends on the chic
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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It could depend on how hard you are TRYING to get the woman or if you are not TRYING at all.
Are you TRYING to make them like you or are they pulled in by your gravity?
I believe part of that is how the woman is and how they make you feel. If they comply and gives you a lot of respect in the beginning, they make you feel comfortable and make you let down your guard in a way. This can bring out beta type vibes. This is not a bad thing necessarily and can indicate that you guys just may have a more compatible and/or stronger bond.
As long as you don't pedestalize her, remain steadfast in your purpose, standards, discipline, leadership and be willing to challenge her or call her out on anything that doesn't sit well with you(after having viewed through an objective lense), you shouldn't worry about those things.
Being a good man is a combo of alpha/beta.
good remark with the cute vs hot woman
I saw that I am more beta let”s say with cute girls , than I am with hot ones
I think the reason is that cute girls give out a more vulnerable vibe , which in return makes the guy not be as hard as he would normally be with people that do not give this vulnerability vibe
and this vibe also makes you to take a more caring stance
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.