"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Many of your threads didn't follow the parameters set forth in the sticky at the top of the DJ Discussion... meaning they asked questions brought up in 2938492834 other threads, they weren't but 1-2 sentences, or they were just inane (i.e. "If a girl touches her hair when she's around me does it mean she wants me?").
Read the DJ Bible, read the stickies, think out what you're trying to say and feel free to post the result of these simple steps. I'd be willing to bet it wouldn't be deleted.
*edit: I just went through the first page (of 25) of posts (by hitting the search button under your name). Though I'm not going to wade through 25 pages of stuff, I found one or two threads of yours on the first page alone that you've started which are in "the other forum"... so I'm a bit confused by your statement that all of the threads you've posted in there have been deleted.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72254
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're not paying you guys enough.
No need to sit there *****ing about people not talking about how cars and woman correlate, I mean its a forum populated by 99% guys, so a discussion involving woman and cars will eventually steer towards just cars, no pun intended.
All im saying is take care of the lame threads as you see fit, but when people are having a discussion theres no need to make lame threats. If anything just MOVE the thread to anything else... no need to completely close it down.
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
that was an awesome pun.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If they can't take the time to read the sticky then why should be take the time to care about them?
diablo
Master Don Juan
Well, people visiting the forums care. If they go to DJ Discussion, they want to talk about girls. If they go to health and fitness, they want to discuss weights/etc. Each section of the forum is divided into categories. DJ Discussion is for talking about meeting, dating, and attracting women. Health and fitness is for discussing strengh training, etc. Anything Else is for talking about things that don't already have categories.
Talking about "my 86 chevy impala missed a gear last night, but it's still better than your 92 geo prism, especially because yours has to rotate the distributor cap every 10 miles" is fine for Anything Else, but it's not permitted in DJ Discussion. People go there to discuss women, not cars - and if we allow one thread to go way off track (look up the word "moderate") then where's it going to stop? Why not just combine H&F, AE, DJ Disc., Wingman, etc all in one and let everyone talk about everything?
It's a case-by-case basis. Sometimes the replies that people have taken the time to write to the thread justify the dumb question being left up there. I've come across several threads I would have deleted if they had 0 or a few mediocre replies, but instead they were left alone because the stuff that was there was really beneficial to everyone on the site... though if the question is completely stupid, like that one the other week asking "Do women over 40 have STDs?", then yeah - it'll be deleted regardless of the quality of the responses it's gathered.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Sorry, I don't remember everything that was ever said in every thread I've ever deleted. I was giving an example...
If yours was removed, like I mentioned before, it was for a good reason. Try following the steps I've outlined in one of my earlier replies on this thread and I doubt you'll run into the same problem. That's really all that needs to be said about it, there isn't a whole lot to discuss...