"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Many of your threads didn't follow the parameters set forth in the sticky at the top of the DJ Discussion... meaning they asked questions brought up in 2938492834 other threads, they weren't but 1-2 sentences, or they were just inane (i.e. "If a girl touches her hair when she's around me does it mean she wants me?").
Read the DJ Bible, read the stickies, think out what you're trying to say and feel free to post the result of these simple steps. I'd be willing to bet it wouldn't be deleted.
*edit: I just went through the first page (of 25) of posts (by hitting the search button under your name). Though I'm not going to wade through 25 pages of stuff, I found one or two threads of yours on the first page alone that you've started which are in "the other forum"... so I'm a bit confused by your statement that all of the threads you've posted in there have been deleted.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72254
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're not paying you guys enough.
No need to sit there *****ing about people not talking about how cars and woman correlate, I mean its a forum populated by 99% guys, so a discussion involving woman and cars will eventually steer towards just cars, no pun intended.
All im saying is take care of the lame threads as you see fit, but when people are having a discussion theres no need to make lame threats. If anything just MOVE the thread to anything else... no need to completely close it down.
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
that was an awesome pun.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If they can't take the time to read the sticky then why should be take the time to care about them?
diablo
Master Don Juan
Well, people visiting the forums care. If they go to DJ Discussion, they want to talk about girls. If they go to health and fitness, they want to discuss weights/etc. Each section of the forum is divided into categories. DJ Discussion is for talking about meeting, dating, and attracting women. Health and fitness is for discussing strengh training, etc. Anything Else is for talking about things that don't already have categories.
Talking about "my 86 chevy impala missed a gear last night, but it's still better than your 92 geo prism, especially because yours has to rotate the distributor cap every 10 miles" is fine for Anything Else, but it's not permitted in DJ Discussion. People go there to discuss women, not cars - and if we allow one thread to go way off track (look up the word "moderate") then where's it going to stop? Why not just combine H&F, AE, DJ Disc., Wingman, etc all in one and let everyone talk about everything?
It's a case-by-case basis. Sometimes the replies that people have taken the time to write to the thread justify the dumb question being left up there. I've come across several threads I would have deleted if they had 0 or a few mediocre replies, but instead they were left alone because the stuff that was there was really beneficial to everyone on the site... though if the question is completely stupid, like that one the other week asking "Do women over 40 have STDs?", then yeah - it'll be deleted regardless of the quality of the responses it's gathered.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Sorry, I don't remember everything that was ever said in every thread I've ever deleted. I was giving an example...
If yours was removed, like I mentioned before, it was for a good reason. Try following the steps I've outlined in one of my earlier replies on this thread and I doubt you'll run into the same problem. That's really all that needs to be said about it, there isn't a whole lot to discuss...