Groverz
Don Juan
What has your experience been after a break up with pictures on FB? If you were dumped or if you dumped them did either of you delete all of the pictures? If not why?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Delete pictures after a breakup?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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If you delete the pics then it will help get her off your mind and forward with your life. Otherwise, it will look like you are pining over her and secretly hoping she'll come back into your life as you have all of these wasted memories lying around. Especially if she's hot and she's gone for life.
Groverz
Don Juan
What if she does not delete the pictures of me she has?
Do most girls delete them after breakups?
Do most girls delete them after breakups?
I'm nearly a month past breakup and the Facebook photos remain, still tagged. I think it really depends on the type of person and breakup as to whether or not you'd want to even be remotely associated with them.
If it was clean (as far as breakup goes) and you don't mind people knowing of your past then I don't see the problem in leaving them, provided you have more to your Facebook profile than pictures of your ex.
If you're going NC and insist on keeping her as a Facebook friend then I'd advise turning off your chat to her (so that you do not appear online and her name doesn't appear online to you either) and unticking the "show on newsfeed" option on her profile. Seeing her name will not help you.
If it was clean (as far as breakup goes) and you don't mind people knowing of your past then I don't see the problem in leaving them, provided you have more to your Facebook profile than pictures of your ex.
If you're going NC and insist on keeping her as a Facebook friend then I'd advise turning off your chat to her (so that you do not appear online and her name doesn't appear online to you either) and unticking the "show on newsfeed" option on her profile. Seeing her name will not help you.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Delete everything that reminds you of her. Out of sight, out of mind. Time to move on. Fück what everybody else thinks.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Stort_Brød
Senior Don Juan
^^^ yup, don't dwell on the past... look to the future.