"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Deflating

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Immediately after a work out I look really good. My muscles are pumped and ripped and I look big. However, I wake up the following morning and I look deflated. I look thinner and the muscles have less definition.

I recently took a week rest period and by the end of the week I looked like I'd lost a load of mass. Yet immediately after resuming my workouts I seemed to "inflate" back into shape.

Can anyone relate to this?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah I can. The blood get stuck in your muscles when you work out heavy and you look pumped up. Then when you relax and wait a couple of hours you deflate again and look skinnier.
 

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thats why pro boduilders pump up before entering on stage.
 

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It's normal. And as Duke just said, BB'ers always have to pump before going onstage.

I lost 2-3 inches off of my arms when I was ill and wasnt eating much... I've put almost 2 inches back on, so I'm not too bothered.

Just know it's normal.

Try getting a huge pump, then having a cold shower.... makes you look super-big ;)
 

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Yep, I'm sure everyone can relate to this. It's a muscle pump and happens pretty much whenever you workout. It's a good boost of confidence.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dockta

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DJB.. whats with the pump and cold shower? sounds interesting.. i hopes its notjust "another: one of your fetishes :)
 

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When you take a cold shower the skin tightens and the blood in the muscle (aka the pump) get stuck longer so you look inflated. :)
 

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Exactly.

And stop with the less-than-friendly/patronising comments. You're no one on an internet forum so theres no need to try and talk anyone down.
 

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DJB... was that for me? if your relating that to my last post to you.... i was being serious... i didnt know about the pump and shower... and the fetish thing was a joke man. lighten up. my bad
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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