"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What seperates one-night douchebags from LTR material. . .

I would like to read what your perspectives are. Also, if you believe you know what attracts these types(from experience and such) then I'd apperciate your input on that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sfalexi

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Simple.

If you enjoy her company whenever you're together and don't think that the night HAS to end in sex in order to make hanging out with her "worthwhile".

Alexi
 

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Originally posted by sfalexi
Simple.

If you enjoy her company whenever you're together and don't think that the night HAS to end in sex in order to make hanging out with her "worthwhile".

Alexi
Wait a minute, isn't sex is what makes any relationship "worthwhile" ?
 

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Ughhh, sex is fun, yes, i agree. If you want sex, find someone else who wants just sex. Hanging around a girl and spending time with her just because you havent ****ed her yet and that's all you want to do is not an LTR, that's a LTI, long term investment.

For an LTR, sex is not a foundation buiding block. Eventually the novelty wears off, and something has to fill the void, i.e substance.
 

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for me, LTR material is a woman that has it. She knows the game, whe can play it, she is really the real deal. It's like she's read the book "The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right" and lives it. She also has to either have her life together, or have ambition and is working to get it together.

That's LTR matterial for me. Looks aren't too important, but of course I have to be able to look at her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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