"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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hey guys,
it seems to me that i know a lot of people, i talk with them in class,etc. however, i barely get invited to do anything. basically its like we're friends but very shallow friends. what are some ways to "take it to the next level" in tems of friends? i mean go from acquaintances to real friends.

for example, i know some of the popular ppl at our school. even friends with some of them, but we only talk in class. how can i budge into the popular group?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Instead of waiting for them to invite you try to ask them to hang out. Dont wait for them to invite you, just as long as you dont seem desperate.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Start by calling them up on the weekend and seeing what they are up to.

It takes time to form a good friendship
 
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I know your situation and i ask you this.
Do these people you talk with at school ever talk about what they are doing after school or over the weekend?

When they do that then maybe drop a subtle hint that you would be game to come along by saying something like hey that sounds like fun or i love doing that. You might get invited after saying somethign like that.

Or you can be a little more direct and say you dont have any plans yet so maybe you will give them a call to hang out.(If you dont have their number then you will need to ask for it for obvious reasons)


If they never talk about what they are doing then just ask. I usually causually bring it up with lots of people at school, especially on friday when everone is excited for the weekend, and oftentimes i get invited along to things after I ask what they are up to.
 
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