"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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suaveplayer

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hey guys,
it seems to me that i know a lot of people, i talk with them in class,etc. however, i barely get invited to do anything. basically its like we're friends but very shallow friends. what are some ways to "take it to the next level" in tems of friends? i mean go from acquaintances to real friends.

for example, i know some of the popular ppl at our school. even friends with some of them, but we only talk in class. how can i budge into the popular group?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Instead of waiting for them to invite you try to ask them to hang out. Dont wait for them to invite you, just as long as you dont seem desperate.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Start by calling them up on the weekend and seeing what they are up to.

It takes time to form a good friendship
 
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I know your situation and i ask you this.
Do these people you talk with at school ever talk about what they are doing after school or over the weekend?

When they do that then maybe drop a subtle hint that you would be game to come along by saying something like hey that sounds like fun or i love doing that. You might get invited after saying somethign like that.

Or you can be a little more direct and say you dont have any plans yet so maybe you will give them a call to hang out.(If you dont have their number then you will need to ask for it for obvious reasons)


If they never talk about what they are doing then just ask. I usually causually bring it up with lots of people at school, especially on friday when everone is excited for the weekend, and oftentimes i get invited along to things after I ask what they are up to.
 
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