"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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aight there is a girl which i want to ask out, and she is my #1 pick as of now. she is a 7-8 which is pretty good in my book. When i'm with her i don't have to try at all, i'm completely relaxed things just come naturally. Now the problem is that her ex is one of my good friends. She broke up with him, and i don't know how he'll feel about this. I'm a strong believer in bros b4 ho's. So is there like a code among guys about not dating another's ex?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how long have you been friends? How long were they together?
And how long since the breakup?
 
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we've been friends for about 2 years. he's on my swim team.
they were together for a few months..... like 4? maybe....
and they've been broken up since the 3-4th quarter of last year.
 
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as of right now, i'm highly siding with not going out with her.
 
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In these scenarios it all comes down to whose more important to you.

Anyway though you could try asking your bro if it'd be alright for you to get with her.

If he greenlights it outstanding.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yeah i should ask him. but i hinted it once, and tried to ask why they broke up, but he seemed very uncomfortable about the subject
 
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Crazy Asian said:
So is there like a code among guys about not dating another's ex?
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There seems to be and I think it's a load of crap.
A huge number of people on this site is happy to sit back and say "Next!" whenever a girl does something wrong by them. But as soon as one of their mates shows an interest in their castoffs, all of a sudden it's like they've still got ownership rights on the girl.

If I'm done with a girl and there's no chance of it being fixed in the future, then I couldn't care less who she goes out with. If it's one of my friends, then great, good luck to them... and no, it doesn't matter who broke it off.

If you want to keep this guy as a friend, better talk to him first. It's been nearly a year now, but if he hasn't gotten over it yet, he never will. It's likely you'll have to make a choice between them if you go after this girl.
 
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