decision

[Crazy Asian]

aight there is a girl which i want to ask out, and she is my #1 pick as of now. she is a 7-8 which is pretty good in my book. When i'm with her i don't have to try at all, i'm completely relaxed things just come naturally. Now the problem is that her ex is one of my good friends. She broke up with him, and i don't know how he'll feel about this. I'm a strong believer in bros b4 ho's. So is there like a code among guys about not dating another's ex?

 

[Interceptor]

CA,
how long have you been friends? How long were they together?
And how long since the breakup?

 

[Crazy Asian]

we've been friends for about 2 years. he's on my swim team.
they were together for a few months..... like 4? maybe....
and they've been broken up since the 3-4th quarter of last year.

 

[Crazy Asian]

as of right now, i'm highly siding with not going out with her.

 

[KontrollerX]

In these scenarios it all comes down to whose more important to you.

Anyway though you could try asking your bro if it'd be alright for you to get with her.

If he greenlights it outstanding.

 

[jesusrules]

In these scenarios it all comes down to whose more important to you.

Anyway though you could try asking your bro if it'd be alright for you to get with her.

If he greenlights it outstanding.

exactly what I was thinking.

 

[Crazy Asian]

yeah i should ask him. but i hinted it once, and tried to ask why they broke up, but he seemed very uncomfortable about the subject

 

[Alkali]

Don't.

Do Not.

I wouldn't.

You shouldn't.

 

[Cremasta]

So is there like a code among guys about not dating another's ex?

There seems to be and I think it's a load of crap.
A huge number of people on this site is happy to sit back and say "Next!" whenever a girl does something wrong by them. But as soon as one of their mates shows an interest in their castoffs, all of a sudden it's like they've still got ownership rights on the girl.

If I'm done with a girl and there's no chance of it being fixed in the future, then I couldn't care less who she goes out with. If it's one of my friends, then great, good luck to them... and no, it doesn't matter who broke it off.

If you want to keep this guy as a friend, better talk to him first. It's been nearly a year now, but if he hasn't gotten over it yet, he never will. It's likely you'll have to make a choice between them if you go after this girl.