"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I know it's not that big of a deal when it comes to credit.

It can be, depending upon how much you need credit.

You will get a judgment on your credit report. That will drop your score. Also, you probably won't be able to get a mortgage or major financing until the judgment is paid. You can tack on an explanatory paragraph if you like to your credit report that will become part of the report, but that is probably a waste of time. When I brokered mortgages, "no liens, no judgments" was a rule for every loan I did. I imagine there are loans that are possible to get if you have a judgment, but at least with mortgages it would be a 'hard money' lender who requires a big down payment and gives you a crappy interest rate.

If you do nothing, seven years after it hits, the judgment will drop off your credit. Sometimes you have to write and request it, but you always have the option of waiting it out. You still owe the money, but it will not longer be reflected on your credit score. If you re-negotiate a payment plan during that seven years, the clock starts over.

Bankruptcy is a realistic option, not that I am recommending it, but the debt would go away if you don't have many assets, and you could have decent credit again in just a couple of years. If you are making money and show good debt to income ratios, someone will want to loan you money. It is a competitive market.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have no plans on doing bankruptcy over $600. This is an issue of principle.

I don't really think it's that big of a deal. If I'm paying car loans fine, but I have a petty $600 dispute with a cable company, I don't think it's a big deal.

I have no plans on getting a major loan or mortgage for a while(5+ years). I can see giving out mortgages in the states being tough, since the housing market is in a dive. It's still pretty hot in Canada, and if I defaulted on a mortgage the bank would make a clean $20k-50k profit when they foreclose my house.

I think what I'm going to do is file disputes over it until it's removed from my record. I've yet to see an ounce of proof on why I owe this much. I do agree I owe the modem, but that other crap. No way.
 

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Well this is all talk for the time being.. Once get chatting with those debt collectors, you'll find out they are not interested in finding out what you did or what happened, they'll ask to fax them a prove.. If you can't, they'll keep calling..

Heed my advice, tell them to stop calling you..

Once they have been notified that they should stop calling you for collection, they must do so.. When that happens, the only option they have is to sue you if they are to collect on you.. Otherwise they file you away and sell your case to someone else.. (then you go through same routine with someone else)

Thus, the only time you get to speak your case if they take you to court..


The other thing you could do is talk to your cable company, instead of debt collectors.. Just make sure you document everything so you have something to show debt collectors..



The most important thing I learned from my past blunders is that you have to stay on top of these things. Never let them go away, because they never do go away.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Phyzzle said:
Yeah, a life of debt collection is a life of animated perversion . . . what?
omg, hahaha. I just realized that i posted this in the wrong thread LOL. I meant it to be in the DBZ fan one.
 
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