"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I know it's not that big of a deal when it comes to credit.

It can be, depending upon how much you need credit.

You will get a judgment on your credit report. That will drop your score. Also, you probably won't be able to get a mortgage or major financing until the judgment is paid. You can tack on an explanatory paragraph if you like to your credit report that will become part of the report, but that is probably a waste of time. When I brokered mortgages, "no liens, no judgments" was a rule for every loan I did. I imagine there are loans that are possible to get if you have a judgment, but at least with mortgages it would be a 'hard money' lender who requires a big down payment and gives you a crappy interest rate.

If you do nothing, seven years after it hits, the judgment will drop off your credit. Sometimes you have to write and request it, but you always have the option of waiting it out. You still owe the money, but it will not longer be reflected on your credit score. If you re-negotiate a payment plan during that seven years, the clock starts over.

Bankruptcy is a realistic option, not that I am recommending it, but the debt would go away if you don't have many assets, and you could have decent credit again in just a couple of years. If you are making money and show good debt to income ratios, someone will want to loan you money. It is a competitive market.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have no plans on doing bankruptcy over $600. This is an issue of principle.

I don't really think it's that big of a deal. If I'm paying car loans fine, but I have a petty $600 dispute with a cable company, I don't think it's a big deal.

I have no plans on getting a major loan or mortgage for a while(5+ years). I can see giving out mortgages in the states being tough, since the housing market is in a dive. It's still pretty hot in Canada, and if I defaulted on a mortgage the bank would make a clean $20k-50k profit when they foreclose my house.

I think what I'm going to do is file disputes over it until it's removed from my record. I've yet to see an ounce of proof on why I owe this much. I do agree I owe the modem, but that other crap. No way.
 

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Well this is all talk for the time being.. Once get chatting with those debt collectors, you'll find out they are not interested in finding out what you did or what happened, they'll ask to fax them a prove.. If you can't, they'll keep calling..

Heed my advice, tell them to stop calling you..

Once they have been notified that they should stop calling you for collection, they must do so.. When that happens, the only option they have is to sue you if they are to collect on you.. Otherwise they file you away and sell your case to someone else.. (then you go through same routine with someone else)

Thus, the only time you get to speak your case if they take you to court..


The other thing you could do is talk to your cable company, instead of debt collectors.. Just make sure you document everything so you have something to show debt collectors..



The most important thing I learned from my past blunders is that you have to stay on top of these things. Never let them go away, because they never do go away.
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Phyzzle said:
Yeah, a life of debt collection is a life of animated perversion . . . what?
omg, hahaha. I just realized that i posted this in the wrong thread LOL. I meant it to be in the DBZ fan one.
 
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