"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dealing with tough, independent women
- Thread starter Matt Rogers
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nutz
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Matt Rogers said:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/03/03/unemployment-busting-the-mating-market/
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article7009556.ece
You need to remind yourself you're in the drivers seat, she's on borrowed time lookswise, and her career doesn't mean a thing to most men. Get the idea?
When women like this give guys a hard time, that's when you just stop, look them in the eye, and call them out on whatever it is they're doing. Usually it's a form of vicious ball busting.
"Wow, you're being pretty mean/rude/abrasive/etc. Did I do something to offend you?"
Then just let it simmer and build tension so she has to either realize she's being a cold biatch for no fault of your own and adjusts her behavior accordingly, or she brushes it off like it's no big deal and "that's just the way she is". If the former then you've broken through and are good to go. If the latter then stand up, say something along the lines of, "Yeah, this isn't going to work." and abruptly walk away.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
princelydeeds
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Your already all kinds of fcucked up! Eject son, EJECT!!!Matt Rogers said:
Matt Rogers
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I met her last night. She was very different from her online persona. Very quiet. Not at all argumentative or sarcastic. She seemed very nervous if anything. I had to ask a lot of questions to get her talking. Very closed body language.
She wasn't as good looking as her photos suggested. I wasn't that attracted to her.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Living proof that bull**** baffles brain.....I had a funny experience Internet dating,tried to come to grips with a Lady who started her profile with "I am a Confidant Young Lady..."well the first meeting she flaked,but the second was quite amusing,I agreed to see her in a corner coffee shop in a busy street,sitting peacefully enjoying my cappacino and my mobile phone rang..."T...is that you sitting at the table with a blue shirt" "well yeah,where are you""I'm sitting a hundred yards up the road looking at you through binoculars"of course when I walked up the road she had done a runner...You have to laugh...
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Ha ha ha ha !Nutz said:
NUTZ, Scaramouche speaks West Coast Australian.
He means "she split" .
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
An interesting post,this Lady discusses herself in terms that might impress another Woman....A typical behavior from Girls who don't mix with Men...probably analogous to the emphasis on Macho attributes that many Men adopt?