"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dealing With Rejection

Jokerlsk

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So guys, today i had an epiphany. I have confidence, but not the type of confidence that is needed to be successful with girls. My biggest fear is rejection. I'm even afraid to ask my parents for things sometimes. I know, it's really sad. I'm not an ugly guy, i'm not a stupid guy, i am a funny guy, but I just can never muster up enough courage to actually ask a girl out. I want to change that, but I don't know how. Homecoming is in 2 weeks for my school, and I really want to go, but I don't have a date. There's a girl i like in one of my classes, and I really want to ask her, but I seriously don't know how to go about it. Any advice would be helpful. Especially for people what have gone through what I'm going through right now.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jokerlsk

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That sounds like great advice!!!!
No just kidding.
 

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Why would asking a girl from my school cause drama?
 

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It depends on how you view it. You see rejection as a personal thing while it may not be. There could be dozens of reasons why the girl don't take you up on your offer but for you the reason is that you're not good enough.

Everybody will get rejected sometime and usually people get rejected in the vast majority of cases ie when approaching.


Start by seeing rejections as they really are ie not always your fault.
See them as a learning experiance.
See it as the girl losing out and making a big mistake.
See it as being a percentage. You'll have to get "rejected" a few times to find the woman most suited to you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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