For some reason, I have spent time in the last week thinking about women I had blown off or rejected and wondering if I did the right thing. At the time , there seemed to be good reason to do so, mainly because they were very clingy and saw a lot more in the relationship then I did. A few years on though, I am wondering if I threw away a good opportunity. How do I get over this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dealing with regrets ...
- Thread starter Firefly
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
VikingKing
Banned
Compartmentalize it. It really isn't important, so label i that way in your mind. Easier said than done, but you can.
Tictac
Banned
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again too few to mention....
But then again too few to mention....
Teddy_Beer
Don Juan
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Eh I used to be like you. Letting seemingly good women pass me by. But then I remembered that it's never, EVER a good idea to go back to the past. What's done is done. You d be doing more harm than good by recontacting these women.
just let it go.
just let it go.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've been there. Think about all the BETTER women you WILL meet in the future!
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.