For some reason, I have spent time in the last week thinking about women I had blown off or rejected and wondering if I did the right thing. At the time , there seemed to be good reason to do so, mainly because they were very clingy and saw a lot more in the relationship then I did. A few years on though, I am wondering if I threw away a good opportunity. How do I get over this?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dealing with regrets ...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
VikingKing
Banned
Compartmentalize it. It really isn't important, so label i that way in your mind. Easier said than done, but you can.
Tictac
Banned
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again too few to mention....
But then again too few to mention....
Teddy_Beer
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Eh I used to be like you. Letting seemingly good women pass me by. But then I remembered that it's never, EVER a good idea to go back to the past. What's done is done. You d be doing more harm than good by recontacting these women.
just let it go.
just let it go.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I've been there. Think about all the BETTER women you WILL meet in the future!
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.