For some reason, I have spent time in the last week thinking about women I had blown off or rejected and wondering if I did the right thing. At the time , there seemed to be good reason to do so, mainly because they were very clingy and saw a lot more in the relationship then I did. A few years on though, I am wondering if I threw away a good opportunity. How do I get over this?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dealing with regrets ...
- Thread starter Firefly
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
VikingKing
Banned
Compartmentalize it. It really isn't important, so label i that way in your mind. Easier said than done, but you can.
Tictac
Banned
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again too few to mention....
But then again too few to mention....
Teddy_Beer
Don Juan
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Eh I used to be like you. Letting seemingly good women pass me by. But then I remembered that it's never, EVER a good idea to go back to the past. What's done is done. You d be doing more harm than good by recontacting these women.
just let it go.
just let it go.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I've been there. Think about all the BETTER women you WILL meet in the future!
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.